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  • Withholding Information from Adopted Kids

    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    30 Mar 2015 | 8:14 am
    By Lori Holden This is part 2 of the Parenting GPS series, in which I’m sharing Q&As from a webinar I delivered recently on openness and embryo adoption (or donation — pick the term that works for you), which is similar in many ways to traditional adoption. In fact, many of the questions that arose from the Nightlight … Continue reading Withholding Information from Adopted Kids → The post Withholding Information from Adopted Kids appeared first on Lavender Luz. Read at the Source: : Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Voices of Adoptees – The Results of the Adoptee Survey

    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    30 Mar 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By AstridBeeMom The thought had never even crossed my mind. I did a birthmother survey and that was all I ever expected to do as far as polls go. However, first I had one, then a few more, adoptees ask if I would consider doing a survey of adoptees. Like my birthmother survey, I’m sure it was viewed as a chance for everyone’s voices to be heard. I knew that it would be more difficult to come up with questions for adoptees to answer as I was not an adopted person. The birthmother... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Good Thing I’m Not An Architect

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    Susan
    23 Mar 2015 | 9:02 pm
    If I was an architect or a builder, I’m sure that I’d be building falling-down bridges and houses whose floors tilted so that marbles would roll from wall to wall. My staircases would be crooked and there would be corridors that led nowhere. Surely, the bathtubs would leak onto the kitchen table. It’s taken me decades to construct this book of mine, this story-without-end. I’ve read countless books and taken classes, hired helpers and still, this unwieldy piece of writing has eluded me like Jell-O slipping through my fingers. I spent today in a fever, writing a book…
  • The Sea Women

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    Kimchi
    30 Mar 2015 | 8:40 pm
    I have never been to Cheju-Do, but am looking forward to finally seeing "Korea's Hawaii" this summer when my family goes. It has been a longtime dream to bring my mixed race children to see where their mother comes from. I had almost given up on dragging my reluctant teens, when one of them actually expressed interest in going. I...
  • Withholding Information from Adopted Kids

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    Lori Holden
    30 Mar 2015 | 2:30 am
    This is part 2 of the Parenting GPS series, in which I’m sharing Q&As from a webinar I delivered recently on openness and embryo adoption (or donation — pick the term that works for you), which is similar in many ways to traditional adoption. In fact, many of the questions that arose from the Nightlight … Continue reading Withholding Information from Adopted Kids → The post Withholding Information from Adopted Kids appeared first on Lavender Luz.
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    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth

  • Voices of Adoptees – The Results of the Adoptee Survey

    30 Mar 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By AstridBeeMom The thought had never even crossed my mind. I did a birthmother survey and that was all I ever expected to do as far as polls go. However, first I had one, then a few more, adoptees ask if I would consider doing a survey of adoptees. Like my birthmother survey, I’m sure it was viewed as a chance for everyone’s voices to be heard. I knew that it would be more difficult to come up with questions for adoptees to answer as I was not an adopted person. The birthmother... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Withholding Information from Adopted Kids

    30 Mar 2015 | 8:14 am
    By Lori Holden This is part 2 of the Parenting GPS series, in which I’m sharing Q&As from a webinar I delivered recently on openness and embryo adoption (or donation — pick the term that works for you), which is similar in many ways to traditional adoption. In fact, many of the questions that arose from the Nightlight … Continue reading Withholding Information from Adopted Kids → The post Withholding Information from Adopted Kids appeared first on Lavender Luz. Read at the Source: : Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • How Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Openness?

    28 Mar 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By Lori Holden I delivered a webinar recently through Nightlight’s Embryo Adoption Center. I was delighted to have a chance to address this new-to-me audience, people who are in the middle of making family-building decisions. Because why wouldn’t we transfer what we now know about parenting people who grow up adopted to parenting people who grow up as … Continue reading How Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Openness? → The post How Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Openness?... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • The Trauma of Mothers Who Have Lost Children to Adoption

    24 Mar 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By Mirah Riben In a public hearing before the Assembly Institutions, Health and Welfare Committee on Adoption, December 9, 1981, in Trenton, New Jersey, attorney Harold Cassidy made the following impassioned plea:There is a need for us in society to learn to know the women who have come to call themselves ‘birth-mothers.’ They are women who know that a child is part of his mother forever… They know the pain of wanting what is best for the child they love, while society tells... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Life in Limbo

    24 Mar 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By AstridBeeMom My last personal update was in the middle of January so I figured it was time to write again. I’ve been struggling a bit more with things, in regards to adoption, and I think that getting it all out would be helpful. I am almost finished writing a memoir novella about the time of my pregnancy, birth and the following weeks. I know this has taken its toll on my emotional health as revisiting that time period is always difficult, let alone writing about it. At the same time,... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
 
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  • Good Thing I’m Not An Architect

    Susan
    23 Mar 2015 | 9:02 pm
    If I was an architect or a builder, I’m sure that I’d be building falling-down bridges and houses whose floors tilted so that marbles would roll from wall to wall. My staircases would be crooked and there would be corridors that led nowhere. Surely, the bathtubs would leak onto the kitchen table. It’s taken me decades to construct this book of mine, this story-without-end. I’ve read countless books and taken classes, hired helpers and still, this unwieldy piece of writing has eluded me like Jell-O slipping through my fingers. I spent today in a fever, writing a book…
  • Clearing The Way for Words

    Susan
    23 Feb 2015 | 6:34 pm
    I’ve been dealing with some writing “stuckness” in the past month or so. And I’ve been aware that it’s had to do with both inner and outer obstacles. The writing was just not happening. The first thing I needed to deal with was my space. I alternate between writing in my home office, and my shared office space at the San Francisco Writers’ Grotto. But recently I realized I was fleeing to the Grotto more often than not, because my own space was just such a damn mess. These photos don’t even begin to show the half of the mountains of paper and boxes all…
  • Walking, Writing, Shhhhhhh

    Susan
    17 Feb 2015 | 9:26 pm
    Walk without speaking for one hour. Then, write without stopping for another hour. It’s a simple sequence, but somehow it’s magical, what that combination can produce. I’ve been doing this practice since 1996, when my writing friend introduced me to it. We’d switch locations: one week, we’d walk the beach in San Francisco and then write at her house; then the next week, we’d walk in the redwood forest and write at mine. We ended up writing hundreds of pages in this way. What happened in that silence during the walk?  Every walking hour was different.
  • Would You Read It Carved Into A Stone Tablet?

    Susan
    23 Apr 2014 | 2:06 pm
    book cover art by Mollie Ito Roark I’m so excited. My mini-memoir, The Mouse Room, was published by SheBooks a few weeks ago.  Yahoo! I’ve been working not this crazy story for decades- first as fiction, then as part of longer piece, then finally as this little 33-page memoir. I’m proud of it. I worked really hard at it and had some fabulous editing by the folks at SheBooks. I’ve gotten wonderful responses so far. Some very cool Amazon reviews. But one of the things I was not expecting, was to hear several people say to me, “I’d love to read your book, but…
  • AWP Seattle!

    Susan
    1 Apr 2014 | 10:32 pm
    cool souvenirs I brought home BEFORE: I’m so excited. I’m so so so so excited! I should be packing, but instead I am poring over the schedule and all the details for the upcoming AWP (Association of Writers and Writing Programs) conference in Seattle, where I’ll be headed tomorrow!! I first attended AWP in Tempe, Arizona back when I was a MFA student twenty years ago (!) and one of our fantastic professors, Elmaz Abinader, took a little group of us to our first writers’ conference. It blew my mind, and introduced me to the incredible world of authors and poets and…
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  • The Sea Women

    Kimchi
    30 Mar 2015 | 8:40 pm
    I have never been to Cheju-Do, but am looking forward to finally seeing "Korea's Hawaii" this summer when my family goes. It has been a longtime dream to bring my mixed race children to see where their mother comes from. I had almost given up on dragging my reluctant teens, when one of them actually expressed interest in going. I...
  • I am Home!

    Kimchi
    1 Mar 2015 | 12:06 pm
    We often get stuck in the past. We pay a high price when we do. When we dwell too long in negativity that we have experienced, we often lose out on many great possibilities. Difficulties in our lives, especially those that seem to occur and re-occur, are usually the road map to our own hero’s journey. If we spend too...
  • RIP Paul J. Kim

    Kimchi
    27 Oct 2014 | 3:02 pm
    Let us take a moment to keep in mind the family of Rutgers student, Paul J. Kim. IAmKoream.com is reporting Paul's body was recovered earlier this month from the Hudson River. His death has been ruled a suicide. Though I did not personally know Paul, I do know that suicide is a real problem in the Korean/Korean American population. Too...
  • Mystery Arms

    Kimchi
    23 Oct 2014 | 4:57 pm
    The BBC is reporting a 50 year dinosaur mystery has finally been solved . . . And it's weird! Korean and British researchers have come up with what appears to be one of the WEIRDEST dinosaurs ever reconstructed. Part of the mystery stemmed from the HUGE, long arms of this bad "...the long forearms with giant claws may have been...
  • Hello!

    Kimchi
    19 Aug 2014 | 11:18 pm
    Hello Kimchi Mama Readers! It's me... Mary! Long time no see. I am not sure why I haven't blogged in a while... I just haven't. But today I got to thinking about Kimchi Mamas and felt like I should write a post. What have I been up to? Mostly just the usual... working, mothering, you know. My younger son started...
 
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  • Withholding Information from Adopted Kids

    Lori Holden
    30 Mar 2015 | 2:30 am
    This is part 2 of the Parenting GPS series, in which I’m sharing Q&As from a webinar I delivered recently on openness and embryo adoption (or donation — pick the term that works for you), which is similar in many ways to traditional adoption. In fact, many of the questions that arose from the Nightlight … Continue reading Withholding Information from Adopted Kids → The post Withholding Information from Adopted Kids appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Open Adoption?

    Lori Holden
    28 Mar 2015 | 6:00 pm
    I delivered a webinar recently through Nightlight’s Embryo Adoption Center. I was delighted to have a chance to address this new-to-me audience, people who are in the middle of making family-building decisions. Because why wouldn’t we transfer what we now know about parenting people who grow up adopted to parenting people who grow up as … Continue reading Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Open Adoption? → The post Can Closed People Be Nudged Toward Open Adoption? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • The Unknown

    Lori Holden
    23 Mar 2015 | 2:30 am
    Let’s say you get wind that someone unknown to you is checking you out. Perusing pages and pages your blog. Or angling to get your attention via various social media platforms. Or asking about you in your offline life. Whether online or in “real” life, you get the sense that someone is gathering information about … Continue reading The Unknown → The post The Unknown appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Could You Do This for 4 Minutes?

    Lori Holden
    16 Mar 2015 | 4:50 am
    Or is such intimacy a hot potato that can’t be held for too long? I conducted my own experiments yesterday. Intimacy and Connection: Field Notes Child A: Was fidgety. Wanted to do something more active, but stuck with the experiment. Persevered through temptations to check the timer, and later stayed to observe as I did … Continue reading Could You Do This for 4 Minutes? → The post Could You Do This for 4 Minutes? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Triumph in Ohio

    Lori Holden
    14 Mar 2015 | 6:40 am
    Another One Bites the Dust Remember when I predicted that glasnost would come to adoption? That the walls erected in the name of shame and secrecy will inevitably fall, state by state, thanks to the hard work of adoption reform activists around the country –because anything built on a foundation of shame and secrecy simply … Continue reading Triumph in Ohio → The post Triumph in Ohio appeared first on Lavender Luz.
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  • Being An Adoptive Parent Doesn’t Make You An Expert

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    24 Mar 2015 | 7:24 am
    Scrolling through facebook this morning I can across a link to an article written by an adoptive mother who has become a full time adoption advocate. She seems to base her entire education and advocacy platform based on her own limited experience and myth. I was just going to roll my eyes and move on, but then I read that adoption isn’t just a gain for the adoptive parents, the, “child benefits from being adopted as much as or more than the parents who adopt him or her.” Wow way to gloss over all the loss children experience in order to be adopted. I hope an adoptee (or two…
  • Because Of Course

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    4 Mar 2015 | 7:30 pm
    I once read (in a peer reviewed academic article) that moms who have relinquished experience secondary infertility at higher rates than the general population. I have several hypotheses as to why this might be so, but I have no data to back any of them up and I’m not sure that right now my hypotheses matter. What I do know is that right now I’m struggling with feelings and self hate. If I believed in God maybe I could foist the hate in his or her direction, but I don’t so instead I am the recipient of my own emotion. Did you know you could have PCOS without having any actual…
  • Open Adoption Is Not Slavery

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    16 Feb 2015 | 9:24 pm
    Today I quit two online adoption groups. The quitting of one has been a long time coming. Microaggression after microagression after macroaggression. It was only a matter of time before I left. The other was a surprise. It was a birth mom support group. I loved having other moms like me to talk to. Obviously no one’s story is exactly the same, but it was nice knowing there was this group of women who “get it” and I don’t have to explain or educate them about what it’s like to be a mom like me. Last night someone in that group said something that bothered me and I…
  • Lucky

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    16 Jan 2015 | 4:17 pm
    I just wrote about my path to relinquishment. Even writing my truth I feel guilty. I feel I need to balance it with happy talk so as not to offend anyone. Which, I do know is an impossible goal, but still I try. I got lucky. Regardless of how I ended up signing those papers. I got lucky. I got lucky that a wonderful couple’s profile was in the stack sent to me by the facilitation service. I got lucky that they didn’t care about gender or race or distance. I got lucky that they were every bit as fantastic in person as on the paper and on the phone. I got lucky that they desired…
  • (Less Than Informed) Consent

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    16 Jan 2015 | 4:06 pm
    I’ve been slow putting the blog back together, not knowing what to write about, what to republish, what to leave gone. The topic of relinquishment and choice has come up in fairly heated conversations in more than one adoption group recently. And when I say recently I mean the last few days. It’s as if somewhere an alarm went off alerting people that this is the week for debating relinquishment. There have been those who call it selfless, heroic, and courageous. There are those who call it abandonment, irresponsible. In both camps there are those who insist on reminding everyone…
 
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  • How to Prepare for Becoming a Stay at Home Mom

    Ashley Roberts
    6 Mar 2015 | 5:14 pm
    Being a stay at home parent is something that many people dream about as soon as they start thinking about having kids. Being able to stay home not only means being able to raise one kids on their own, but also having the ability to never miss a second of their precious lives. There are a lot of things that a couple needs to consider if they want to have the mother stay home with the kids. Here are some ways to prepare for becoming a stay at home mom that anyone can use to make the transition easier. Find a flexible way to make money from home Unfortunately, there are a lot of couples today…
  • Why Sports Are Important for Students

    Ashley Roberts
    6 Mar 2015 | 10:42 am
    School sports are a major part of many middle schools, high schools, and colleges. While some might worry that they take time away from academics, others argue that they are extremely important for the well being of today’s students. There are several reasons for this.   Increase Health   Sports are a great way for students to get exercise. Many students spend a lot of their days sitting. This is due to the large amount of reading and homework that they need to complete. Playing a sport allows them to stay physically fit. It decreases the likelihood of obesity in today’s youth,…
  • 3 Steps for Organising a Hassle-Free Business Trip

    Ashley Roberts
    21 Jan 2015 | 7:57 am
    With swanky accommodation, gourmet meals and other perks, we could be forgiven for thinking that a business trip is only about 20 percent work and 80 percent fun. Well, that’s a pretty common mistake, as business travel can often end up being as stressful and tedious as just staying home and working at the office. But, it doesn’t have to be. Here are 3 steps for organising a hassle free business trip. 1. Hire a Travel Manager With travel being a necessary part of conducting business, there are now companies, such as Corporate Traveller, that specialise in organising business flights and…
  • 5 Things to Consider When Building Your New Home

    Ashley Roberts
    20 Jan 2015 | 1:48 pm
    So you’ve found the perfect block of land in the perfect neighbourhood. The bank has given the thumbs up for the loan. The aspect of the land is right, all you need to do now is build a house! Without a doubt, there are many things to think about when building. You might have a house design in mind, but what about everything that goes in it? Are you going to follow the herd and go with whatever your builder recommends, or are you going to see what’s going to be best for your home? Here are five things you should seriously consider when building your new home. 1. Windows and Doors A window…
  • The Ultimate Travel Kit For Your Business Trip

    Ashley Roberts
    16 Dec 2014 | 3:26 pm
    Business travel is a fairly common occurrence in this day and age, from the fly-in, fly-out jobs to the large companies with multiple office locations. And although the idea of travelling for business seems like fun in hindsight, it can actually be fairly stressful. So to help ease some of the burden, have a look at the below ideas that could help form your ultimate travel kit. Size Matters When it comes to your luggage, the smaller it is the better. If you’re travelling for business, the last thing you want to be doing is standing in long queues to either drop off or pick up your bags. By…
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  • We moved!

    Jae Ran
    9 Mar 2015 | 7:32 am
    Harlow's Monkey has moved to harlows-monkey.com.  Please update your links and bookmarks. The new site features more information and resources for adoptees, adoptive parents and professionals but maintains its transracial/intercountry adoptee perspective.
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  • Closure [Film]

    Suz
    30 Mar 2015 | 4:27 pm
    While I take a day or so to collect my thoughts on the one day I attended of AAC 2015 I offer the following suggestion.  If you have not already seen this movie, Closure – A Documentary About Adoption,  I encourage you. I watched it yesterday right after returning from the conference.  Would love to hear your thoughts.  Interesting discussion on my twitter feed today regarding same. It is now on NetFlix and Hulu.  Angela Tucker spoke at AAC as part of The Lost Daughters panel.  View trailer below or visit the film site for more info. Related posts: Like, Whoah, In Treatment Does…
  • AAC 2015 Boston

    Suz
    24 Mar 2015 | 4:35 pm
    Despite my recent posts on Quits and Quitting today I made the decision to travel to Boston for one day to attend American Adoption Congress.  The fabulous Claudia is presenting a session (Teaching Adoption Blogging & SEO Best Practices at the AAC Conference in March 2015) and the event is less than 2 hours from my home.  Providing the weather plays nice, it will be a nice trip up and back.  Also nice to see a few familiar faces. Anyone else going?   Related posts: AAC 2015 Marching Towards AAC Me, AAC/ANC and 3rdMom!
  • Quits & Quitting

    Suz
    23 Mar 2015 | 8:57 am
    Jenna recently shared her experience jumping into and out of adoption land over the years. While my personal experiences were somewhat different, my end results were somewhat the same. I deeply immersed myself and then I pulled away. I am here today yet I am a very different person than I was fifteen years ago, on the cusp of my search for my daughter.   I did not necessarily “quit” adoption rather I quit certain adoption specific behaviors. Quit Denying My Feelings Many years ago I formed a yahoo group for individuals separated via the Kurtz network of agencies.  The group started…
  • Missed it (almost)

    Suz
    20 Mar 2015 | 2:42 pm
    I missed it. I actually missed it. A bit surprising to me, yet not. Records were opened in January 2015 as previously mentioned and I missed it. Of course, I know the reason I missed it is that I was dealing with my sons TBI. I missed it for a good reason. By that I mean I was focusing on the child that needs me versus obsessing over the one that does not. However, I am still sort of surprised I missed it. Now I am caught up. Thanks to Eileen mentioning she requested and received her daughters original non certified un-amended birth certificate from Illinois. Literally within minutes of…
  • Ohio Opens (Sort Of)

    Suz
    20 Mar 2015 | 11:55 am
    Lots of posts today celebrating the partial opening of the Ohio birth and adoption records. I am going to post links for those that qualify. I am also going to remind folks that partial opening is not really a celebration. Dirty bills that have restrictions (often called “mother may i”) is not something to celebrate. Allowing some adoptees to get their OBCs but restricting others (either due to age or by bill limitations allow mothers to refuse to be identified) is not something to rejoice — least not to me. Treat all adopted citizens as equal. Why is that so hard? And while…
 
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  • What not to say to a natural mother

    29 Mar 2015 | 9:07 am
    LorraineExcerpt from Hole in My Heart, soon to be released:Adoption reform, like all causes that move with the speed of the tilt of the earth,can be grueling. To do the work means you keep revisiting the place of your greatest pain. I try to stay away from adoption as my life’s leitmotif. I might write the occasional letter to legislators—I did get so involved in New Hampshire when a bill allowing adoptees access to their original birth certificates passed that the chief sponsor, adoptive father Lou D’Allesandro, called within the hour to celebrate. Yet when new acquaintances…
  • Selfless surrender of infant? Or a snow job?

    25 Mar 2015 | 6:34 pm
    Jane"Woman Selflessly Gives Up Her New Born for Adoption for an Incredible reason" trumpets the San Francisco Globe. And what is this incredible reason that propelled Amber to make "one of the hardest decisions a mother could possible make"? The incredible bond the prospective adoptive parents had with the "birth mother" of their first child.  Gag me with a spoon!With incredible saccharin, the twisted logic continues: "Here is a woman who, against her insanely strong motherly instinct realized that she couldn't provide the best life possible for her child, and so was willing to make the…
  • How do natural mothers fare?

    22 Mar 2015 | 7:08 am
    LorraineConsidering the flak the last couple days at First Mother Forum, today seemed like the right time to include a portion of the book I'm about to publish. My book is a largely a memoir--of my relinquishment, search, reunion and relationship with my daughter Jane-- but it also has sections of journalism that puts our painful story in a larger context. From Hole in My Heart:Adoption is trumpeted today as a universal good thing. For infertile couples who wish to have a family, it is a solution. For religious organizations and fellow-travelers, agencies that use the mantle of religion,…
  • Catelynn and Tyler's open adoption closing?

    20 Mar 2015 | 10:02 am
    Tyler Baltierra & Catelynn LowellThe honeymoon adoption of the daughter of Tyler Baltierra and Catelynn Lowell, one of the original couples on MTV's 16 & Pregnant, may be coming to an end. The oh-so-perfect adoptive parents Brandon and Teresa Davis "have threatened to cut off contact" according to inTouch. They're unhappy with Catelynn and Tyler's behavior and refusal to "follow adoption rules." They "violated the Davis' trust because they posted photos of Carly on social media." They're concerned "with Carly now five being in the public eye as she gets older."Readers will recall…
  • The awful legacy of adoption

    18 Mar 2015 | 2:48 pm
    Lorraine"The world is wrong. You can't put the past behind you. It's buried in you; it's turned your flesh into its own cupboard. Not everything remembered is useful, but it all comes from the world to be stored in you."--Claudia Rankine wrote in her book of poetry, Citizen.Rankine, who is black and was born in Jamaica, was talking about race, but when I read her words I thought how they applied to mothers who relinquished children and the children who so relinquished. We trail our history behind us like a veil that never leaves us, and instead becomes part of us.I was thinking about this in…
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  • Hope that Follows Sorrow

    Lisa Qualls
    30 Mar 2015 | 11:27 am
    One thing I miss terribly about homeschooling is reading aloud to my kids. Last month I realized this really isn’t a difficult problem to solve, I simply need to carve out time to read before they leave for school. I always want to make the most of time spent reading aloud so I choose my […]
  • Remembering Moments Part 4

    Lisa Qualls
    26 Mar 2015 | 6:57 am
    I didn’t know how hard this would be to write, so I’m going to write it quickly with minimal editing and publish it. Remembering Moments Part 1 | Remembering Moments Part 2 | Remembering Moments Part 3 We held on and cried, whispering comfort to each other. A nurse came in and asked Russ if […]
  • Not a Pretty Journey

    Lisa Qualls
    25 Mar 2015 | 12:47 pm
      I began writing the next section in my Remembering Moments series and realized that my memories are all so confused that I need Russ to help me sort it out. That conversation is going to take some emotional space that we haven’t had the last few days, so I’ll pause and post Part 4 […]
  • Remembering Moments Part 3

    Lisa Qualls
    23 Mar 2015 | 5:52 am
    Writing this is becoming more difficult. I’m struck by the large gaps in my memory and the time that is completely gone. I also know that soon I’m going to tell you about losing Kalkidan, and that is unbearable. I’ll press on. Remembering Moments Part 1 | Remembering Moments Part 2 I have a vague […]
  • Sunday Gratitude 3.22.15

    Lisa Qualls
    22 Mar 2015 | 6:00 am
    giving thanks #1631 – 1640 coffee with a friend while kids played – it’s been awhile great hand-me-down baseball cleats for both boys Noah and Samuel helping Russ unload the trailer full of patio furniture passed to us by friends our favorite doctor at Seattle Children’s making special arrangements to see Beza a friend dropping […]
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  • What I want you to know: I have a Ph.D. and I’m not using it

    30 Mar 2015 | 6:00 am
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Jennifer.I was in graduate school for six years. Beginning in 2007 and up until the summer of 2013, I was slaving away over books and articles and papers in an effort to earn my Master’s and Ph.D. degrees. In short, I was working my tail off non-stop for what seemed like an…
  • That's what SHE said: modern motherhood myths, salvation through tattoos, too much ethnic casting, and more . . .

    29 Mar 2015 | 3:57 pm
    DEAR NELLIE ANDREEVA AND DEADLINE, ABOUT YOUR PIECE ON TOO MUCH "ETHNIC CASTING" ON TV | AWESOMELY LUVVIESometimes, white people are like the kid in kindergarten who always wanted to play with your toys but they’d never let you play with theirs. You try to tell them your toy is only for you and they’ll report you to the teacher saying you didn’t share. It’s like how white folks whined about not being in SELMA (even though the movie did show the contributions of some white characters but logic has no place in the stupidity of racism). That’s like us being all “WHY WERE WE NOT IN…
  • Friday Finds for New Moms

    27 Mar 2015 | 6:00 pm
    Over the past few years I've heard from some great companies that are making ingenious baby gear, but because I'm well out of that stage, it has felt disingenuous to talk about those products since I'm obviously not trying them out myself.  When I found out my assistant/email whisperer/writer Lindsey Anthony was expecting, I asked her if she'd like to help me create a Friday Finds of all of the best baby products out there. I love the stuff she found and I wish some of these had been available when I had infants. Thanks Lindsey!Dear new moms and mamas-to-be, I feel…
  • Blue Apron’s family plan

    26 Mar 2015 | 10:40 pm
    This post is sponsored by Blue Apron For the past two weeks, we have been trying Blue Apron’s new family dinner plan. I have written about blue apron before. It is a service that sends recipes along with exact measurements of the ingredients that he will need, so that it takes all of the guesswork and shopping out of creating meals from scratch. The family meals are $8.74 per person, delivered in a refrigerated box so that you don’t have to be sitting at the wait when the box arrives. Because I like to cook but hate to shop, this is a really ideal service for me. All of the groceries I…
  • What I want you to know about living with fibromyalgia

    25 Mar 2015 | 6:00 pm
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Emily McCallister. My name is Emily McCallister. I am 24 years old. I have lived with fibromyalgia for 10 years. According to mayoclinic.com, fibromyalgia "is a disorder characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain accompanied by fatigue, sleep, memory, and mood issues."…
 
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  • Returning to Ethiopia

    Julie Gumm
    16 Mar 2015 | 9:00 pm
    Ah, the neglected blog…..sorry. Life is crazy, and chaotic and by the time I manage working full time, cooking, running to athletic events and just managing life, there has not been much time for blogging. But there is cause for celebration! Five days from now we will be winging our way to Ethiopia – the WHOLE family! We’ve been dreaming of doing this for years. We told Beza & Luke we would someday take them back. And the day is near at hand. They will get a chance to visit extended family, including their grandmother. Noah and Natalie will have a chance to see where…
  • “You Can Adopt Without Debt” – New book NOW AVAILABLE!

    Julie Gumm
    5 Jan 2015 | 8:00 pm
    It’s launch day! Approximately 2.5 years in the making, I’m beyond thrilled to have “You Can Adopt Without Debt: Creative Ways to Cover the Cost of Adoption” finally available!! The book was written with one goal in mind – to equip families wanting to adopt with the tools and ideas to make their dream come true and do it without going into debt. Unlike my previous book,” You Can Adopt Without Debt” is designed to even help someone just beginning to think about adoption. It explores the different kinds of adoptions, gives pros and cons to each, guides…
  • Seasons of change … and waiting

    Julie Gumm
    2 Dec 2014 | 8:07 pm
    As the leaves fall from the trees here in beautiful Northwest Arkansas, we have passed a major step in our season of change. Our Phoenix house is sold. While it seemed like forever, in all it only took 10 weeks to get a buyer. And interestingly enough the day we accepted the offer our realtor got another call from someone who wanted to make an offer. Sometimes God provides in abundance. So now we can turn our attention to house hunting. We love living in a small town but that does mean the inventory is somewhat limited. Especially for a family our size. While we don’t need a mansion…
  • Breakfast With Santa Adoption Fundraiser

    Julie Gumm
    23 Sep 2014 | 11:00 pm
    Seem a little early to be thinking about Christmas? It’s not, I promise! The holidays offer some great adoption fundraiser ideas and I especially love this one from the Teply family. They added Santa to their pancake breakfast fundraiser! A pancake breakfast fundraiser is a great idea in itself. Families have made several thousand dollars with this idea (like the Burden family). But give a mom a chance to get her kids pictures with Santa WITHOUT going to the mall and you have hit the jackpot!! No mom wants to stand in line for an hour (or more) for the over-priced photo in which their…
  • My beauty product splurge – 3D Fiber Lashes

    Julie Gumm
    15 Sep 2014 | 6:57 am
    I don’t review a lot of products on this blog, and I certainly don’t review beauty products regularly, but today that’s what you’re getting. So if you’re one of my male readers feel free to move on to the next blog post of the day now A few weeks before we moved my friend Jen was over for a late night editing session and she asked me if I had ever heard of 3D Mascara. She proceeded to fill me in on this weird sounding stuff where you put green tea fibers on your eyelashes. Say what? Anyways, fast forward a couple months and someone invited me to an online party…
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    Lost Daughters

  • American Adoption Congress Conference AAC - Part 2

    Cathy Heslin
    29 Mar 2015 | 3:37 pm
    Diverse Narratives in the Collective Adoptee VoiceKaren, Cathy, Angela, Rosita, Amira Rose, Amanda, Rebecca, Annette Kassaye, Trace, JennPhoto courtesy of: Light of Day StoriesToday, we're packing up our things and heading home to our little ones, our loved ones and our lives. Our responsibilities lie in wait - jobs, school, kids, spouses, households, commitments.In the day to day, being a part of Lost Daughters is something that we squeeze in between all of these competing duties. Being a Lost Daughter is something that most of our families and friends don't really understand.
  • American Adoption Congress Conference - Part 1

    Cathy Heslin
    27 Mar 2015 | 10:25 pm
    I admit it, I was a little star-struck at meeting some of my Lost Daughters sisters for the first time. After all, I have seen their picture and read their work for the past few years. They've influenced and inspired me. There's something about getting to know someone through their writing, and then meeting them in person, that makes it richer and deeper from the start. It's like you already know them, a least a little bit.There are several of us Lost Daughters at the American Adoption Congress Conference in Cambridge Massachusetts this year. We're presenting in a round-table tomorrow (okay,…
  • Congratulations Ohio Adoptees! You can now have a copy of your original birth certificate!

    Lynn Grubb
    23 Mar 2015 | 6:59 am
    As a proud Ohioan, it brought me great joy to be able to stand beside my fellow Ohio adoptees this past weekend in celebration of the unsealing of adoptees' adoption files and original birth certificates for those adopted between 1964-1996.  This is a momentous event and one I was happy to be part of.  Early on in the process, two other adoptees and myself sat down with Representative Jim Butler at my local Starbucks who advised he fully supported this legislation and gave us advice on how and when to write in support of getting this bill passed.The event kicked off…
  • Dear Elton John, It’s Not All About You

    Karen Pickell
    19 Mar 2015 | 5:41 pm
    Photo by Richard Schatzberger via FlickrDear Elton John,I’ve heard about the argument between you and fashion designers Dolce & Gabbana over their recent comments about gay couples becoming parents via IVF. I understand why you were offended on behalf of your own two sons when D&G called children conceived through IVF “children of chemistry, synthetic children.” There is no such thing as a synthetic child. All children are conceived when an egg from a woman is fertilized by a sperm from a man, whether this fertilization takes place inside or outside of a woman’s body. I join…
  • Dear Mr. White … Sincerely, Your Twinkie

    mothermade
    16 Mar 2015 | 10:00 pm
    Mama Bear is pissed.I handled the abuse as a young adult Twinkie; I handled the racism. For so long, I have awkwardly smiled when faced with horrible comments and micro-aggressions.But inside, it ate away at me. I vowed to minimize this for my children. Now finally, the trauma of my high school days has hit home with my son inheriting my discomfort.So, here I give you my thank you note to white America.Thank you, Mr. White …… for the title of “Oriental;”… for passing down to your children the hurtful words I thought would eventually disappear;… for the glorification of your…
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    Transracialeyes

  • knowing you’re forgetting: the orphan’s heartache

    girl4708
    27 Mar 2015 | 9:04 pm
    Most intercountry adoptees reading on the internet are gen x’ers or millennials.  Very few are baby boomers, because we were the first to have been subjected to this social experiment en masse, and we are aging. And, if the rest of older adoptees are like me, we are exceptionally (acquaintances might even say irrationally) afraid of […]
  • What is the obverse of “ghost” and “haunting”?

    Daniel Ibn Zayd
    7 Mar 2015 | 8:40 am
    We’ve spoken about ghosts here and there. Lately, with reunion looming, I feel like I am haunting my own life, finding might-have-been footsteps; meeting could-have-been friends and, inch’allah, even family. But the metaphor is bothering me. A ghost is the immaterial which haunts the physical plane of the past, of what was. What is it […]
  • What does it mean to be adopted to a post racial world?

    girl4708
    6 Dec 2014 | 12:22 pm
    Like many people here in America, currently in racial turmoil over grand jury decisions not to indict police officers who have killed unarmed black men, I shared this image on facebook.  A few days later, articles appeared berating the photo’s manipulation and message.  Clearly, other people think harder than I do before sharing. The first […]
  • “Coming Out” As Adopted

    Snow Leopard
    27 Sep 2014 | 6:39 pm
    The metaphor of “coming out” has been used elsewhere as a way to describe the experience of disclosing one’s status as adopted. What do you think about how this metaphor illuminates and distorts being open about one’s adoption experience?
  • Ok…does anyone know what’s going on in India?

    Mark Diebel
    21 Aug 2014 | 12:43 pm
    I wrote an article (published) that I’ve posted on Academia dot edu called “Human Nature and Truthfulness in Adoption and Donor Conception Practice”. The article has received 49 hits in the last 30 days from Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata, Kumar, Gurgaon, Suri, Mumbai, Vijayawada, etc. The search terms when identified are something like “to be truthful is […]
 
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    Together for Adoption

  • What’s the Apostle Paul doing with the term ‘adoption’?

    Dan Cruver
    24 Mar 2015 | 10:20 am
    What “in the world” is the Apostle Paul doing with the term adoption? Realize it or not, this is a very important question. Stop for a minute and think about how you would answer it…One of our 2011 conference speakers, Tim Chester, recently shared on his blog an excellent answer to the question of how Paul is using the term adoption in Ephesians, Galatians, and Romans. It comes from Marcus Peter Johnson’s book One with Christ, and it’s so very, very good! Marcus’ answer to this important question is basically what I’ve argued on this blog and in…
  • Part 1: Christians often resist the idea that adoption is first about reconciliation and reunification.

    Dan Cruver
    13 Mar 2015 | 12:22 pm
    When I spoke on “Adoption as Reconciliation and Family Reunification” at T4A’s October 2014 conference, I received a good bit of push back. Most who pushed back believed I had changed positions and weren’t pro-adoption any longer (i.e., pro-adoption: placing fatherless children into families through adoption). Many thought my position was now somewhat anti-adoption.I sympathize with those who believe I’ve changed my position due to outside influences, but that simply is not the case. In the opening comments of my talk I said, “My goal today is to challenge…
  • Super Early-Bird Registration Now Open

    Dan Cruver
    9 Mar 2015 | 11:40 am
    Simple action can make a world of difference.Our 2014 conference theme was “Urgency & Complexity: Biblical & Ethical Approaches to the Orphan Crisis.” We needed to engage with just how complex orphan care has become as a global issue.It’s time for simplicity. The reality is that, even though orphan care and adoption are tough and complex at times, people all over the world are discovering simple steps that can lead to truly transformative solutions.Especially in a time like ours, complexity can lead to discouragement and even to analysis paralysis.We need simple.When facing the…
  • The Other Side Of Adoption

    Dan Cruver
    4 Mar 2015 | 11:09 am
    David Murray of Head, Heart, Hand reviews Brian Borgman’s After They Are Yours: The Grace And Grit of Adoption. He writes:If you don’t want to cry, don’t read After They Are Yours: The Grace And Grit of Adoption. What a powerfully moving, deeply personal, and transparently realistic story about the challenges of adoption.With the permission of his now 18-year-old adopted son, Alex, Pastor Brian Borgman narrates the struggles and successes of adopting Alex as a young child with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.The beautiful glory and grace of adoption is present throughout; but so is the…
  • Redemptive-Adoptive History at a Glance

    Dan Cruver
    21 Feb 2015 | 4:33 pm
    *Re-post. *Click on the image below to download the PDF.
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    AMERICAN INDIAN ADOPTEES

  • Indian Country Braces for Battle With Adoption Industry Over ICWA Guidelines

    30 Mar 2015 | 7:59 am
    Suzette Brewer | Indian Country TodayBureau of Indian AffairsLast month, Assistant Secretary for the Bureau of Indian Affairs Kevin Washburn announced the release of new guidelines in the Federal Register to ensure that state and federal courts comply with the statutes set forth in the Indian Child Welfare Act. Suzette Brewer |Indian Country Today Media3/30/15Last month, Assistant Secretary for the Bureau of Indian Affairs Kevin Washburn announced the release of new guidelines in the Federal Register to ensure that state and federal courts comply with the statutes set forth in the Indian…
  • Lost Daughters: American Adoption Congress Conference - Part 1

    29 Mar 2015 | 8:10 am
    Lost Daughters: American Adoption Congress Conference - Part 1Trace who contributes to Lost Daughters also was on the panel in Boston yesterday! The Lost Daughters agreed the ADOPTEE VOICE is changing how the world thinks about adoption!More on this will be posted SOON!
  • Ohio Adoptees Lining Up for Records, Truth, Reunions

    24 Mar 2015 | 2:55 am
    SHARONVILLE, Ohio —The state of Ohio is unsealing adoption records for the first time in decades, which means that anyone who was adopted between 1964 and 1996 can now have access to their birth records and vital health information.Half-sisters meet for first time, ready to review Ohio adoption recordsDiana Allen, Jennifer McClure believe they share the same birth father : VIDEO Hundreds of Ohio adoptees gain access to birth records... At 5 weeks old, Jennifer was Beverly and Alan Lunsford's pride and joy. More More Ohio birth, adoption records available to adoptees Thousands of Ohio…
  • First Nations Adoptee launches own search for roots

    23 Mar 2015 | 8:45 am
    Sheila Pelletier in her home in Regina on Friday. She is an adoptee who was part of what is now known as the 60s Scoop. (TROY FLEECE / Regina Leader-Post)By Kerry Benjoe, Leader-Post March 23, 2015After years of rejection, a self-professed loner’s life changed after a single phone call.Two weeks ago, Sheila Pelletier composed the most important Facebook post of her life:“My (birth) name is Sheila Jean Marie Halkett ... I was born in 1982 in Prince Albert. I am from Montreal Lake First Nation ... Possible birth date of mother was April 21, 1948. Please share if you might have any…
  • States With Open Adoption Records (UPDATED)

    23 Mar 2015 | 6:36 am
    This is not an endorsement for OMNITRACE (2014) | States With Open Adoption Records Read this: http://www.womensvoicesmagazine.com/family-section/search-angels/#.VJbI94DAN8 There are several states that have open adoption records.  In these states, an adult adoptee can get an original birth certificate and in some instances more adoption record information. If you are an adoptee looking for your birth parents in an open adoption records state, please request your open adoption records.  However, when you obtain your original birth records, your search might still be…
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    Infant Adoption Guide

  • IAG 032: Adoption Coaching with Gayle Swift of Gift Family Services

    Tim Elder
    19 Mar 2015 | 8:58 am
    “If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.”  In domestic adoption, there are so many paths to parenthood which can have you overwhelmed and unsure how to start. Having an adoption coach who’s survived what you […]
  • IAG 031: Transracial adoption with Rachel Garlinghouse

    Tim Elder
    4 Mar 2015 | 8:31 am
    Have thought about or considered adopting a baby from a different race? Are you prepared? Transracial adoption can be an amazing journey that can still sometimes having you feel alone and unsure of what to do. This episode’s special guest is Rachel Garlinghouse, who is an adoptive mom of three. She and her husband have […]
  • 9 things you need when adopting from another state

    Tim Elder
    19 Feb 2015 | 3:21 pm
    When adopting a newborn from another state, it is extremely important to be prepared. You will likely have to stay in that state until the ICPC (Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children) paperwork clears and you are allowed to legally bring your baby home. Every state has their own adoption laws, but you can […]
  • IAG 030: Adoption tax credit update with Becky Wilmoth

    Tim Elder
    26 Jan 2015 | 12:16 pm
    The adoption tax credit. It’s a huge financial tool for hopeful adoptive parents to use. Something that can help offset the large cost of domestic infant adoption. The credit has changed over the years – and may change again in the future. There are a lot of rules that go with it, which makes it […]
  • 5 Things to Consider Before Adopting Transracially

    Tim Elder
    15 Jan 2015 | 2:27 pm
    This is a guest post from Rachel Garlinghouse – an author and adoptive mom of three shares from her experience about the 5 things you need to consider before adopting transracially. She writes with lots of wit and humor – and you’ll see her passion for transracial adoption. I know you’ll enjoy this! Take it away, […]
 
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    America Adopts

  • Waiting To Adopt Is Harder Than I Thought — And 9 Other Adoption Lessons I’ve Learned

    Lawrence
    24 Mar 2015 | 8:06 am
    This guest post is by Nicole, a hopeful adoptive mother and blogger. It’s been three years since we first started down the path of open adoption and I’ve learned so much along the way. Here are 10 key lessons that I want to share with you. 1. The wait is harder than expected When we went into our workshops we heard about the wait. We thought, “it can’t be any different or worse than all the waiting we’ve done already.” WRONG.  This is a different kind of waiting, one that I don’t think anyone going into an open adoption journey envisions.  Some people are…
  • To Waiting Adoptive Parents Who Are Thinking Of Blogging

    Lawrence
    17 Mar 2015 | 6:54 am
    This guest post is by Sarah Farrar, a hopeful adoptive mother and blogger.  Never in my life did I think I would become a blogger, much less keep a blog that people wanted more of on a regular basis. A blog that would end up being shared all over social media by strangers and adoption sites was beyond what I had ever expected of myself. It all started in a tiny blank teal book. On a whim, I sat down and wrote to our future baby. I wrote about how loved our baby already is, even though we have no idea when we will meet him or her. I described nursery plans, toys, and onesies we had already…
  • The Adoption Reunion That Hits All The Right Notes

    Lawrence
    13 Mar 2015 | 8:55 am
    Adoption reunions are sensitive affairs that usually take place behind closed doors. But tonight, Shari Ulrich and Mike Magee, the son she placed for adoption, will be re-connecting on stage. And they won’t be comparing notes. They’ll be performing them. Shari and Mike will be playing together at a concert in Eugene, Oregon. It’s not the first time they’ve done it. Shari, a singer and songwriter, and Mike, an architect, have been performing together for five years. Shari knows that their relationship is far from conventional. But it works. “It’s been my world…
  • The Day Our Open Adoption Game Plan Changed Forever

    Lawrence
    10 Mar 2015 | 5:33 am
    This guest post is by Jody Dyer, an adoptive mother and author. A few weeks ago, my husband Jeff and our sons Houston, 13, and Scotty, 4, spent an afternoon visiting Scotty’s birth family. The small group—Houston; my husband, Jeff; Scotty’s birth mother Kerri; his birth grandmother Lynn, and his birth great-grandparents Larry and Gail — circled my child with love, pride, and adoration. Constantly mimicking his big brother, Scotty showed off his perfected free throw warm-up routine and his well-practiced golf swing. We applauded to his delight. Then, to the crowd, my innocent…
  • Adopting Hope: My Story As A Single Adoptive Black Mom

    Lawrence
    3 Mar 2015 | 5:53 am
    This guest post is by AdoptiveBlackMom, an adoptive mother and blogger. My daughter, Hope, and I have been together for more than a year now. Our finalization anniversary is coming up. I don’t know how we’ll celebrate yet, but I’m sure we will. This last year has been peppered with huge shifts for both of us.  Becoming a mom to a teenager is…well, awesome and hard. I wanted to adopt an older child for numerous reasons, not the least of which was because I didn’t mind skipping diapers and daycare. While I was ready for parenthood (as ready as one can be), I did find myself…
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    Canada Adopts

  • “We’re Adopting!”: 42 Fun Ways To Celebrate Your Adoption Journey

    Lawrence
    26 Mar 2015 | 10:24 am
    Once upon a time, adopting a child was a closely-guarded secret, known only to a small circle of family and friends. Today, it’s just another way to start a family — and, for many hopeful parents, a cause for celebration. As one hopeful adoptive parent explained, “Have you ever seen pregnancy pictures? If you have, then these adoption pictures are sort of the equivalent! We wanted to have pictures for our child that will show them the love and complete excitement we have awaiting their arrival.” So if you’re just beginning your adoption journey and are looking…
  • 9 Signs The Expectant Mother You’ve Been Matched With Is Right For You

    Lawrence
    19 Mar 2015 | 9:36 am
      Congratulations, you’ve been matched with an expectant mother with an adoption plan. The placement is still a few months away but everything is going smoothly. You couldn’t be happier. Or more of a nervous wreck. On the one hand, you can’t believe how lucky you are. You want to shout it from the rooftops and let the world know that you’re one step closer to becoming a parent. But, amid all of the excitement, there’s a nagging fear at the back of your mind that things may not work out the way you hope they will. You can’t help but think back on all of those…
  • The Hardest Part About Being A Waiting Adoptive Parent

    Lawrence
    12 Mar 2015 | 1:48 pm
    Adopting a child can be a wonderful experience. But waiting to adopt? Not so much. Like any expectant parent, prospective adoptive parents have their share of worries. Will my child be healthy? Will my child be happy? Will I be a good parent? But apart from that, waiting adoptive parents have to think about things that other parents-to-be don’t. Here’s a list of some of the hardest ones, in no particular order. 1. Not having a set due date. 2. Always wondering if there’s something more you could or should be doing to speed up the process. 3. Asking yourself “why…
  • Why Open Adoption Isn’t Confusing To Children

    Lawrence
    5 Mar 2015 | 4:21 am
    For decades people have debated the effects of open adoption and whether ongoing contact was harmful to the individuals involved. Of particular concern was whether it caused problems for children. Some argued that open adoption created confusion about who a child’s real parents were, which lead to issues with self-esteem and identify. But now the co-author of a groundbreaking study on open adoption says his findings contradict these concerns and others regarding birth families and adoptive parents. According to Harold D. Grotevant, the Rudd Family Foundation Chair in Psychology…
  • “Why Don’t Birthmothers Like Us?”

    Lawrence
    26 Feb 2015 | 10:49 am
        “Why don’t birthmothers like us?” The question came out of the blue, but it wasn’t completely unexpected. Other prospective adoptive parents had asked it before. I’m sure I did too when were waiting to adopt. It came from a prospective adoptive mother I’ll called Pam. For nearly two years, she and her husband had been waiting to get picked by an expectant mother with an adoption plan. And yet despite a few inquires that didn’t pan out, they were still waiting to get matched. And they were quickly losing hope. “Sometimes I feel like…
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    Great Wall, Pandas, and Mcdonald's

  • Ebay . . .Changing shipping after sale

    Sean Fahey
    30 Mar 2015 | 12:14 pm
    We had a purchase from Singapore.  They are requesting that we change from priority to cheaper alternative.  We did not have him pay and looked into it.  You can't change the shipping.  I called Ebay and they said we will have to cancel the sale, relist and have the buyer buy it again.  We will just have to be careful that someone else does not buy it.  
  • Jurassic World . . . A blast from the past

    Sean Fahey
    30 Mar 2015 | 6:35 am
    I was watching the Walking Dead finale and the commercial for Jurassic World came on last night.  It brought me back to when Angie and I worked at a movie theater in Raleigh, NC.  The first Jurassic Park was coming to our theater.  We had arranged a movie promotion for Jurassic Park.  We built a life size opening to the park with a display, jungle cargo netting, etc.  Not only that, but we were able to secure tickets on Amtrak to Orlando and tickets to Universal Park, Orlando.  At this time, we had already made plans to go down to Orlando.  We got to visit…
  • Too Good to Be True

    Sean Fahey
    30 Mar 2015 | 5:12 am
    Well, I listed what I could, but I should have read the fine print.  If I did, it probably would have said that you can not exceed the set limits.  I thought that since they were calling it a deal to add 1,000 sales without insertion fees that they would waive all limits.  I was wrong.  The system cut me off at 100.  25 sales and 75 postings.  Hopefully some will sell.  I have a 30 day listing.  That could increase the chances of a sale.  Time will tell.  Now I wait until Wednesday.  Then I can list again. This week we will be waiting on…
  • It's in the mail. . . More good News!

    Sean Fahey
    28 Mar 2015 | 1:03 pm
    Today, we received our approval from the US government.  They will be sending the information to the consulate in Guangzhou.  Once they receive, they will be sending the useful information needed for our Visa's.  This should take about a week.  We sent emailed it to our agency.  Now it on to the next step.  Also, for those interested, I have listed a bunch of posters on Ebay as Buy it Now.  We'll see if this sells some posters.
  • Another Knock on the door of Opportunity

    Sean Fahey
    28 Mar 2015 | 5:16 am
    Angie found another place that we might be able to raise some funds for the adoption.  A Chick fil a in the area is doing a fun day and they allow charities to raise funds.  We will be working in conjunction with Reece's Rainbow, so they will allow us to set up.  We will bring out blankets and bracelets.  In addition to that, we are gathering items from Reece's Rainbow to pass out or/and sell for charity funds.  If you are trying to raise money for an adoption, you just have to look around.  Opportunities are out there.  If they call for a charity, link up…
 
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