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  • What The Camera Missed

    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    30 Jul 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By Cassi By this time, it’s very few who haven’t gotten more than their fair share of the pictures that have gone viral. Pictures that show the story of a desperate couple and their desire to adopt a newborn. Pictures that show their joy, their happiness at claiming the child they so desired. Pictures that, conveniently, leave out the mother of this child. The one who went through nine months loving and nurturing her little girl. Who gave birth only to face the terrible reality she... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • US ICE Agent: What Really Happened in Cambodian Adoption

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    Desiree
    13 Jul 2015 | 10:34 pm
    The document which follows, “What Really Happened in Cambodia” is the transcript of a presentation by US Federal Special Agent, US ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement) Richard Cross.  The presentation, given at Cumberland School of Law, Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama, on April 15, 2005, was part of a symposium entitled “Reforming Intercountry Adoption:  Present Realities and Future Prospects."  Mr. Cross presented on “Operation Broken Hearts,” the 2002 ICE investigation of international adoptions from Cambodia.  This investigation and the evidence…
  • Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — !

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    Lori Holden
    28 Jul 2015 | 7:05 am
    Two weeks ago I asked what you thought about the term “tummy mummy.” Boy, did you have a lot to say. Among the nearly 300 respondents, who chimed in? 66% were adopting or adoptive parents 11% were adoptees 13% had a professional or nonprofessional interest in adoption 10% had placed a child or lost a … Continue reading Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! → The post Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Do you pray?

    Writing My Wrongs
    Suz
    30 Jul 2015 | 5:32 pm
    Do you pray? I do not.  Despite being raised conservative Roman Catholic, I am not a follower of any organized religion and consider myself agnostic. I believe in higher powers, something greater than myself, but I do not subscribe to the bible I was beat with or any other theology.  And yet, I want to ask those who pray, to pray. Or think good thoughts. Or do a rain dance. Or make a sacrifice. Or whatever you do to wish someone good luck. I gifted a very dear friend an AncestryDNA kit.  She is an adoptee and first mother and she is very special to me.  For years she has spoken off and…
  • Just a Thought…

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    anne
    31 Jul 2015 | 3:31 pm
    It’s true, a lot of us, more than we all know or realize have had miscarriages or been affected by them or someone close to us who has experienced that loss and has suffered in silence or kept it to themselves. For some it works for them and their grief process to not broadcast it, but in some way, we all need to talk about it, write about it and somehow process it/get it out of our system because not letting ourselves feel or talk about it makes it worse. I wish, sometimes, that more of us were able to feel comfortable to open up about and share these experiences without feeling…
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    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth

  • What The Camera Missed

    30 Jul 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By Cassi By this time, it’s very few who haven’t gotten more than their fair share of the pictures that have gone viral. Pictures that show the story of a desperate couple and their desire to adopt a newborn. Pictures that show their joy, their happiness at claiming the child they so desired. Pictures that, conveniently, leave out the mother of this child. The one who went through nine months loving and nurturing her little girl. Who gave birth only to face the terrible reality she... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Adoption Romance and the Subtle and Pervasive Influence We Are All Subjected To

    30 Jul 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By AstridBeeMom When us “older” birthmoms try to tell pregnant women, who are planning on giving up their babies, that they have fallen for the coercion of the industry, we are often faced with opposition. Whether that industry is agencies, attorneys, or the media, in general, they all seem to parrot the same types of statements. “I’m not even working with an agency so how is it possible for them to coerce me?” “I’m not being coerced, I made this decision before I even contacted... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you…
  • Pupa: The Transition Stage

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    28 Jul 2015 | 11:00 am
    I have been in a bad funk while I have been waiting for my hair to grow out so I can cut it off. At least waiting for ONE of the two has come to an end.I cut off all my hair. Not sure if this a transitional color. Not sure if this is still part of the transitional stage. Not sure if I am ready to come out of my chrysalis quite yet, but trying to jump start this processes at least. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — !

    28 Jul 2015 | 8:14 am
    By Lori Holden Two weeks ago I asked what you thought about the term “tummy mummy.” Boy, did you have a lot to say. Among the nearly 300 respondents, who chimed in? 66% were adopting or adoptive parents 11% were adoptees 13% had a professional or nonprofessional interest in adoption 10% had placed a child or lost a … Continue reading Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! → The post Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! appeared first on Lavender Luz. Read at the Source: : Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Complete and Total Transparency: Saving Our Sisters is Attacked

    27 Jul 2015 | 8:14 pm
    By AstridBeeMom Original Post about this: SOS Update: Mom in Georgia I really hate that I have to do this. It’s ridiculous, but now it’s necessary. Since publicly announcing that we are no longer endorsing the campaign for the mom in Georgia, we have had a lot of accusations thrown our way all over the internet. Most of these come from the family and friends of the mom. One person, however, is Beth S. Brock. Beth is a member of the adoption community and had signed up to be a... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
 
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  • US ICE Agent: What Really Happened in Cambodian Adoption

    Desiree
    13 Jul 2015 | 10:34 pm
    The document which follows, “What Really Happened in Cambodia” is the transcript of a presentation by US Federal Special Agent, US ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement) Richard Cross.  The presentation, given at Cumberland School of Law, Samford University in Birmingham, Alabama, on April 15, 2005, was part of a symposium entitled “Reforming Intercountry Adoption:  Present Realities and Future Prospects."  Mr. Cross presented on “Operation Broken Hearts,” the 2002 ICE investigation of international adoptions from Cambodia.  This investigation and the evidence…
  • Book Review: Hole in my Heart by Lorraine Dusky

    David Smolin
    11 Jul 2015 | 10:17 am
    For many decades we have been working toward a fundamental re-thinking of adoption.  The necessity of re-thinking adoption is based on the flaws of our cultural, legal and historical approaches to adoption.  We are culturally enveloped by an adoption savior mythology that often begins with the orphan and skips the fundamental facts of loss and disconnection involved in adoption---as though “orphans” were brought to adoptive parents by the proverbial stork.   We still are under a legal approach to adoption that treats the adoptee “as if” she or he had been born to…
  • THE INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION DEBATE IS OVER

    David Smolin
    7 Jul 2015 | 9:09 pm
    Despite what some may believe, the intercountry adoption debate is effectively over.For years, the intercountry adoption (ICA) debate has involved a continuum involving three positions.  One side, whom I will label the ICA cheerleaders, sees ICA as the best intervention for millions of children caught in destructive, dead-end situations with no adequate domestic solutions.  Under the banner of “every child has a right to a family,” this position prioritizes ICA as often the only means of providing children living outside of parental care with a permanent family.  The hope…
  • Keren Riley's Interview of David Smolin About the Evangelical Christian Adoption Movement

    Desiree
    6 Jul 2015 | 3:25 pm
    On May 1, 2015 David Smolin (law professor with expertise in child laundering issues in international adoption; independent expert for the Hague Convention; and blogger here on Fleasbiting) participated in a session at the annual Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO) Summit. That session was a dialogue between Jedd Medicind, President of CAFO, spotlighted as an apologist for the evangelical Christian Adoption movement, and David, introduced as a critic of the evangelical Christian Adoption movement.In the interview linked to below, Keren Riley of Reunite Uganda asks David a series of…
  • The Corrupting Influence of the United States on a Vulnerable Intercountry Adoption System: A Guide for Stakeholders, Hague and Non-Hague Nations, NGOs, and Concerned Parties

    David Smolin
    17 Nov 2013 | 6:27 pm
    The above-titled draft article by one of our bloggers, David Smolin, is posted and available for free download on his bepress site linked below.  The article analyzes the corrupting influence of the United States on the development and present workings of the intercountry adoption system.  A context for this corrupting influence is provided through a careful analysis of the theoretical and practical vulnerabilities of the intercountry adoption system.  The distinctive approaches of the United States to social work, adoption, human rights, children's rights, constitutional law…
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  • Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — !

    Lori Holden
    28 Jul 2015 | 7:05 am
    Two weeks ago I asked what you thought about the term “tummy mummy.” Boy, did you have a lot to say. Among the nearly 300 respondents, who chimed in? 66% were adopting or adoptive parents 11% were adoptees 13% had a professional or nonprofessional interest in adoption 10% had placed a child or lost a … Continue reading Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! → The post Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • My Kid Has No Adoption Issues. That a Problem?

    Lori Holden
    23 Jul 2015 | 8:05 am
    Question:  My daughter is 8 and really, it feels as though she’s having no adoption issues. None at all. Is it possible for her to just be well adjusted about adoption?     — Laurel Dear Laurel: I do believe it’s possible. We should welcome, recognize and show gratitude when our kids are seemingly well-adjusted. Enjoy the … Continue reading My Kid Has No Adoption Issues. That a Problem? → The post My Kid Has No Adoption Issues. That a Problem? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Summer Reading: New Adoption Books

    Lori Holden
    20 Jul 2015 | 5:00 am
    With about half the summer left, I offer you a harvest of new adoption books that have recently become available. Here are some that have come into my mailbox or across my radar. New Adoption Books 2015 Hole in My Heart by Lorraine Dusky For: adults Lorraine, known to many as one of the driving … Continue reading Summer Reading: New Adoption Books → The post Summer Reading: New Adoption Books appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • We Don’t Want an Open Adoption But We Do Want a Baby Fast

    Lori Holden
    16 Jul 2015 | 8:04 am
    I am publishing this brief letter that was recently sent to me not to lambaste the asker, but to help her — and others who may google similar search terms — to see a deeper way of looking at infant adoption.  Respectful comments are welcomed. Comments that shame are not. Question: After talking it over … Continue reading We Don’t Want an Open Adoption But We Do Want a Baby Fast → The post We Don’t Want an Open Adoption But We Do Want a Baby Fast appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Tummy Mummy: What’s Your Opinion on the Title?

    Lori Holden
    13 Jul 2015 | 4:00 am
    On a recent open adoption advice post, the term “tummy mummy” came up in the comments section. I admit, there was a day when I would have embraced that phrase as a term of endearment for the then-unknown women who would make me a mom. And I will also say that neither of those women … Continue reading Tummy Mummy: What’s Your Opinion on the Title? → The post Tummy Mummy: What’s Your Opinion on the Title? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
 
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  • Do you pray?

    Suz
    30 Jul 2015 | 5:32 pm
    Do you pray? I do not.  Despite being raised conservative Roman Catholic, I am not a follower of any organized religion and consider myself agnostic. I believe in higher powers, something greater than myself, but I do not subscribe to the bible I was beat with or any other theology.  And yet, I want to ask those who pray, to pray. Or think good thoughts. Or do a rain dance. Or make a sacrifice. Or whatever you do to wish someone good luck. I gifted a very dear friend an AncestryDNA kit.  She is an adoptee and first mother and she is very special to me.  For years she has spoken off and…
  • Finished About a Girl

    Suz
    28 Jul 2015 | 1:22 pm
    I finished reading About a Girl by Sarah McCarry a few days ago.  Very briefly, I did not like it as much as the first two books in the Metamorphoses trilogy. This final book felt rushed.  McCarry had some great characters and potentially a very engaging story but for me, personally, it moved way too fast. I wish she spent more time developing the characters and story lines. Oddly, despite the seemingly condensed story, she uses a great deal of extra words.  Her writing is visual and highly descriptive (and I like this, it reminds me of Gaiman and I love Gaiman) but this book seemed…
  • DNA Test as Search Tool

    Suz
    27 Jul 2015 | 9:02 am
    A long term adoptee friend and former adoption blogger recently found her natural father after a lengthy search. She was able to do this via AncestryDNA. Her story thrilled me as I have watched her from afar struggle with her questions and deep need to know where she came from. Now she does! And she was welcomed with open arms by her first father! I have several other friends who are in the position of wanting to find relatives but have limited information. One dear friend was born in Hawaii and adopted into the mainland. She has no info, other than a possible name, of her first mother. Given…
  • Teen Mom Backpack Drive

    Suz
    16 Jul 2015 | 7:59 am
    Hope House of Colorado is sponsoring their annual Teen Mom Backpack Drive. As indicated on their website, to adopt a mom and her child, “click here to see who still needs to be adopted and then click on a child’s photo to see a customized list of school supplies required by his or her own school. Next click the Adopt button and then complete the prompted form.” Read more at their website page. Related posts: Teen Parent Lobby Day 2013 A Successful Teen Mom Teen Mom Home
  • AAC 2016 Call for Proposals

    Suz
    15 Jul 2015 | 7:33 am
    The 37th Annual AAC International Conference will be in Denver, CO,  from March 30th – April 2nd, 2016. The AAC is currently accepting proposals for the conference – Trailblazing Change: Moving Mountains Together in Adoption. According to the website they are “extremely interested in workshops that you believe speak to trailblazing changes and ways in which we have moved mountains together in adoption.” You can review the Call for Proposals here. Note that I am working with another first mom to draft our own proposal.  More details about it as time goes by. One…
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  • Just a Thought…

    anne
    31 Jul 2015 | 3:31 pm
    It’s true, a lot of us, more than we all know or realize have had miscarriages or been affected by them or someone close to us who has experienced that loss and has suffered in silence or kept it to themselves. For some it works for them and their grief process to not broadcast it, but in some way, we all need to talk about it, write about it and somehow process it/get it out of our system because not letting ourselves feel or talk about it makes it worse. I wish, sometimes, that more of us were able to feel comfortable to open up about and share these experiences without feeling…
  • “Just The Way You Are”

    anne
    10 May 2015 | 10:57 pm
    I heard this song while I was playing with my two girls the other day and started singing along with it to them and then started to really pay attention to the words I was singing to them and got a little teary eyed, thinking and hoping that they both know how much I love them just the way they are and how much I would not change them cause they are amazing just the way they are. Then I thought, shouldn’t I feel that way about myself too.  Shouldn’t I love myself and not want to change myself for anyone etc cause I’m amazing just the way I am. I found myself remembering…
  • Happiness…

    anne
    10 May 2015 | 9:14 pm
    If I could give you, just one thing, If I could show you how my heart sings… If only you knew how I wake each day, to the beautiful, brilliant suns rays If only I could express that love and those feelings that press upon my chest That gives me hope, that give me life, and help me to for another day be able to cope If only I could show you all the happiness and all the love that comes to me from up above Spoon it all out through your lips so it would fill your waiting mouth So you could feel it spill out your mouth and drip down your chin causing you to grin The post Happiness……
  • A Mother’s Kiss

    anne
    10 May 2015 | 9:10 pm
    When both my daughters were born, My heart was so full Of joy and pain As I looked into Their beautiful blue eyes I saw my blue eyes, A piece of heaven And myself reflected there Such a beautiful gift God gave me those days, Holding my daughters, After giving birth Close to my heart So they would know How my heart beat Just for them And how my heart Would belong To them Now and for always Such precious time I spent with my girls So full of love, Light and happiness Then came the pain Heartbreaking & exquisite When that time came That dreaded moment When I stood, With them in my arms,…
  • The Other Mother

    anne
    10 May 2015 | 9:07 pm
    When you roll over, sit up, take your first steps… I won’t be there, But I’ll be cheering you on through my thoughts and my prayers. Every year when you have a birthday, I won’t be there, but I’ll be thinking of you, wondering what you’re growing up to be. You will be gone from my sight with your mother and father, but never forgotten or gone from my heart. Whenever you’re nervous and afraid, facing hard times and decisions. Just remember I’m there with you in spirit always cheering you on. When your mom tells you she loves you, remember…
 
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  • A natural (birth) mother's secret--time to let go

    31 Jul 2015 | 1:44 pm
    LorraineThe rape, the MULTIPLE RAPES, the woman slowly coming forward, then faster, then in great hordes, accusing the Great Bill Cosby of rape, often with the use of drugs. One of his attorneys tries to make the case that Quaaludes, a strong sleep medicine, was widely used for sexual pleasure four decades ago.Oh please. The attorney, Monique Pressly--female, black, attractive--pleading his case in public is obviously designed to make us feel--what? That all the women are liars? Sympathy for The Man? I feel nothing but disgust. Another guy who thought he could get away with sexual assault…
  • What were the Sixties like and other ?s

    21 Jul 2015 | 8:01 pm
    LorraineYesterday was a day of highs and lows. First of all the heat and humidity on the East Coast are unbelievably high, and I ran off in the morning to a live half hour interview on Bonnie in the Morning, on a local NPR station on Long Island, WPPB.The man who has the hour show before Bonnie greeted me with a big hug--I know him from the local bird seed and supply store where he also works, and it was clear he already knew the topic, even though my story was all news to him before then. We usually discuss the merits of safflower seed vs. sunflower in the summer to discourage the hoards of…
  • Hoping for tough questions

    17 Jul 2015 | 2:28 pm
    Daughter Jane and Lorraine in the 90sOkay, I am focusing 24/7 on Hole In My Heart: memoir and report from the fault lines of adoption and so the poor ole' blog is taking a back seat. I'm being interviewed on Monday, July 20, on Bonnie in the Morning, on Long Island's NPR station, WPPB, 88.3 FM sometime after 9:30 a.m.  Hoping that I get the tough questions that make for an interesting interview that leads to more, etc., I wrote up a few questions and answers for Bonnie Grice, who is a great interviewer and host. I'm sharing them here;We think of the Sixties as a wild and crazy time,…
  • An agency lies, a mother grieves, a son is lost

    14 Jul 2015 | 7:29 pm
    Lorraine with thinking cap in her garden A terrible "misadoption" story about the horrific Louise Wise Agency in New York City was in my inbox days ago, well before it actually appeared in The New York Times. It the story of a Jewish teenager who reluctantly gave up her son in 1961 after immense pressure from family, and critically, the agency worker who lied to her when she wanted to get her son back before he was adopted.At the time. Wise (ironic name, should be Louise Liar) kept babies for a couple of years in some cases to see that the merchandise was healthy before the children were…
  • Lobbying for OBCs in New York

    7 Jul 2015 | 8:39 am
    LorraineWhat is it like to lobby for a bill that gives adoptees the right to know who they are? We in New York have worked long and hard for a clean bill only to be rebuffed year after year. We need more bodies, more people willing to be strong and stand up for their own rights, and while mothers must be part of the effort, it is adoptees in numbers and unafraid to ask for what should be theirs by fiat are the ones who will bring this victory home.As noted previously, a very bad bill supposedly for adoptees did pass the New York Assembly in the last hours of the session this year and was sent…
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  • What The Camera Missed

    30 Jul 2015 | 4:40 pm
    By this time, it’s very few who haven’t gotten more than their fair share of the pictures that have gone viral.  Pictures that show the story of a desperate couple and their desire to adopt a newborn.  Pictures that show their joy, their happiness at claiming the child they so desired.  Pictures that, conveniently, leave out the mother of this child.  The one who went through nine months loving and nurturing her little girl.  Who gave birth only to face the terrible reality she would would now begin a new life of being without her own child.  Her own flesh…
  • The Popular Table

    23 Jul 2015 | 1:06 pm
    So . . . there are many reasons why I have been so neglectful here on my blog.One of the greatest ones is I’m finally giving myself permission to concentrate on my other writing without feeling guilty for doing so.  I can still help.  I can still support pregnant mothers in need.  I can still be an advocate for adoption reform and adoptee rights.But it’s okay, at this point in my life, to do that on a smaller scale so that I can concentrate on all I walked away from back when I faced some of the worst struggles in giving up my oldest son.Another reason is . . . regardless…
  • Coercion And Manipulation . . . Can't Fight That

    13 Jul 2015 | 3:55 pm
    Again, another fit, loving mother, Kimberly Rossler, is being forced to fight for her baby.For Kimberly, she had decided before ever giving birth to keep her son.  She took him home, raised loved and cared for him for three weeks before he was taken to satisfy the desires of the woman desperate to claim her son as her own.There are  many news stories, blog posts, out there that can give you Kimberly’s story and the horror that happened to her, and worst of all, her newborn son.  With a visit to the Facebook page, Bring Baby Elliott Home, there is plenty of information on…
  • Repeat After Me

    9 Apr 2015 | 7:51 pm
    Okay, sit back, get comfortable, clear your throat and repeat after me . . . The promise of Birth Mother privacy is a lie!Let’s say it one more time . . . The promise of Birth Mother privacy is a lie!I have yet, in the many years I’ve been a part of the fight for Adoptee Rights and Adoption Reform, come across a First (Birth) Mom who was promised privacy.  And I have never seen a single piece of legal paper guaranteeing such a thing.If you are a First Mom who claims you were promised privacy, you are either lying or were lied to.  It is just that simple.To carry out a promise of…
  • Scream Until It Hurts

    6 Jan 2015 | 3:19 pm
    When my middle son was just a baby, I worked at a day care center that included infant care – it was all about the benefit of reduced child care costs and being able to work while still being near my baby.During my time there, I had an experience I will never forget.  An experience that forever changed me.  In the crib next to my son’s in the infant room was a baby boy named Garrett.  One afternoon, during the routine checks of the sleeping babies, the two wonderful ladies who cared for the infants discovered Baby Garrett wasn’t breathing.Those of us who knew CPR were…
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    The Declassified Adoptee

  • "Mommy, Which Mom is Your Real Mom?" When my Biological Children Ask my Adoptee Childhood Questions

    Amanda
    25 Jul 2015 | 8:12 pm
    Recently, my elementary schooler caught me off-guard. "Mommy, which mom is your real mom? Nanny or Grammie?" He was referring to my original mother and my adoptive mother. My thoughts collided and jumbled at once. I had no idea where he had heard the iconic (to me) "real mom" phrase. I fervently try to teach my children that my mothers, and all the ways in which women mother, are valid and important. Maybe I just wasn't doing a good job. Slow down, bring it back Amanda. This is not about you. "Buddy, can you tell me what you mean?" I…
  • An Open Letter: Why Co-opting “Transracial” in the Case of Rachel Dolezal is Problematic

    Amanda
    17 Jun 2015 | 8:32 am
    Amanda's Note: I was proud to participate in the drafting and endorsement of this much-needed letter as an ally to the transracial adoptee community. Please share this letter widely and follow/support #definetransracial on Twitter.Rachel Dolezal. Photo credit: artist unknown.June 16, 2015Please direct all media inquiries to Kimberly McKee, PhD at mckee.kimberly@gmail.com.This past weekend the world took to social media to dissect the events surrounding Rachel Dolezal, the former president of Spokane’s NAACP chapter who came under heavy scrutiny for falsely representing herself as…
  • Born. Adopted. Sealed. Deported: the Fight for Equality for Adopted People

    Amanda
    21 May 2015 | 5:55 am
    "Born. Adopted. Sealed. Denied!" was the hallmark chant of the Adoptee Rights Demonstration during my years attending and co-planning the demonstration as the now-former Vice President of the Adoptee Rights Coalition. The demonstration and its simple four-word message aimed to educate  legislators attending the annual National Conference of State Legislatures regarding a near 90-year-old legal practice that seals the original birth certificates of adopted people in all but 2 states and treats adopted people unfairly when attempting to access this certificate in all but 6 states. When we…
  • Fifty Shades of Gross: a Feminist Confrontation of the Story's Adoption and Foster Care Themes

    Amanda
    16 Feb 2015 | 11:24 am
    I read the Fifty Shades of Grey books at the suggestion of my sister-in-law who has dual degrees in communications and English and is a popular books maven of sorts. She has the uncanny ability to predict whenever any bit of media will become relevant in pop culture. If you want to look like a pop culture genius at your book club, you ask her for a title to recommend to the group. If you want to know what basically unknown lit is going to explode into everyday conversations tomorrow, she can tell you that too. Her suggestion regarding Fifty Shades fell into the latter category."I'll apologize…
  • Happy Reunionversary: 9 Things I've Learned in 5 Years of Reunion

    Amanda
    4 Jan 2015 | 9:31 pm
    My necklace of our matching pair.I had already known my original mother's name for several months before we reunited. As is the practice in my birth state, most adoptees can have their original birth certificates and know their mother's name using the established government channel. We are forbidden to reach out on our own as the civil and criminal legal consequences of doing so are thoroughly explained and signed off on before our records are unsealed. My mother, my first mother, had given me permission to see my original birth certificate. I received a copy of her handwritten…
 
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    One Thankful Mom | Lisa Qualls

  • The Coming Week

    Lisa Qualls
    31 Jul 2015 | 11:04 am
    There was a time when my world was filled with babies, diapers, nursing, morning sickness, high chairs, toddlers, tantrums, and teaching little ones to read. Then it happened. They really did grow up, go to college, move out, get married, start careers – and the children I thought would never sleep through the night no […]
  • No Dinosaurs

    Lisa Qualls
    30 Jul 2015 | 12:36 pm
      Yesterday I was going through drafts that I’ve written and not published. Some of them are full posts that I didn’t finish editing, while some are just a title or a few words which I hoped would remind me of a brilliant idea I wanted to follow up on. I came upon this draft […]
  • Island Adventures

    Lisa Qualls
    29 Jul 2015 | 9:34 am
    We made it to Whidbey Island last Thursday night and our first adventure took us off the island the next day. We didn’t want to haul too much food across the state, so on Friday we packed up the boys and headed north. The island connects to the mainland via two bridges suspended high over […]
  • The 27th – and Seven Months

    Lisa Qualls
    27 Jul 2015 | 6:48 pm
    It keeps happening. The 27th rolls around again, and we count another month since the accident and Kalkidan (I’ve left this sentence unfinished for an hour – what do I say – passed away, died, went to heaven?) Yesterday as Eby and I walked along the beach, he said, “I miss Kalkidan.” “I know Ebs, […]
  • Our Joyful Place

    Lisa Qualls
    23 Jul 2015 | 6:56 am
    This morning we’re headed to Whidbey Island; the place I love most in the world. I grew up spending two weeks there each summer and it’s where many of my happiest childhood memories were made.  We’ve been tremendously blessed to continue the tradition with our own children, and I would venture to say that they […]
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  • Friday Finds: Etsy Makers

    31 Jul 2015 | 6:00 pm
    1. The Double Triangle Ring by foxtailboutique | Etsy2.  Onions and Leaves Tea Towel by leahduncan | Etsy3. Cactus Pouch  Leather by ameliemancini |  Etsy4. Modern Pastel Hardwood 7 Bowl Ocean/Sky by nicoleporterdesign | Etsy 5. Leather Tassel Keychain Tassel Purse Charm Tassel by JillyDesigns | Etsy6. Wooden Spoons Set of Three by Wind and Willow | Etsy 7. Organic Cotton Knit Feather Leggins by littlefourclothing | Etsy 8. The Rhoads Bag : Shibori Canvas by GrahamKeegan | Etsy9. Feather, Hello, Love & Arrows, and Anchor…
  • What I want you to know about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome

    31 Jul 2015 | 6:00 am
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Mallory.I'm Mallory, I'm 16, and I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. Those of you who do not know what Ehlers-Danlos is, it means the collagen in my bones and connective tissue, the little I have, does not work the right way, causing joints throughout my body to fall out of place. So I…
  • Ten steps to positive summer parenting

    29 Jul 2015 | 11:40 pm
    I’ve been told before that my default mode for reacting to the world around me is sarcasm. I trend toward the cynical side of whatever personality-analyzing method you’re using. It works for blogging, I guess, but isn’t always the most attractive quality as a mom. Especially when the kids try to emulate the snark. As a parent, I’ve begun recognizing this on a regular basis. There are so many studies on the virtues of positive parenting and optimistic thinking, and sarcasm just doesn’t match up very well with those virtues. So as summer is here and my kids are…
  • Wednesday's Child: Braydon

    29 Jul 2015 | 12:00 pm
    Every Wednesday I feature a child recently highlighted by a local Wednesday's Child newscast to share the stories of children from around the country who are waiting for a family. My hope is that this can broaden exposure for the children highlighted, but also serve as a reminder that these children represent thousands of children currently in the foster-care system. Perhaps their stories will inspire you to consider opening your home to a child needing a family. For more information and to learn about other waiting children, visit AdoptUsKids
  • What I want you to know about pregnancy after loss

    29 Jul 2015 | 6:00 am
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Lindsey M. Henke, MSW, LICSW.My first baby died. Yes, she died, after a perfect 40-week, full term pregnancy. She died from an E.coli infection. Nothing could be done. Then seven months after she died I was pregnant again. When I looked down at the pregnancy test on that warm…
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    Lost Daughters

  • Keeping Up Appearances for Summer Olympics of 1988

    Elle
    31 Jul 2015 | 9:00 pm
    The official logo for the Olympiad of 1988Due to the fact that Korea made a desperate attempt to better their image as a child exporting nation prior to hosting the Summer Olympics of 1988. They begun to make several changes on the intercountry adoptions from Korea as early-or late as in August of 1986.I was born during the first few months of 1986 and conviniently enough just before the temporary ban of intercountry adoptions. My speedy adoption process surprised my second parents, I prefer second not new in this regard. My adoptive mum has told time and time again of how my APs had planned…
  • We Were All Good Adoptees ... Once

    Cathy Heslin
    23 Jul 2015 | 11:00 am
    I am lucky. I have good adoptive parents who love me. I am grateful for being able to experience the life I have. So many people have it so much worse than I do. Adoption isn't a big deal.Except it is.There is trauma in being separated from your roots, to be relinquished by your original families.We are strong. Hell, yeah. We can take it.Until we can't.I was the perfect adoptee. I had to be. My brother (also adopted) was the one who acted out. He was angry, for no apparent reason.There must be some psychological test out there that examines what happens when you tell someone who has…
  • The Whitest Black Person I Know

    Angela Tucker
    20 Jul 2015 | 3:00 pm
    Angela's tank top says: "I Met God. She Has An Afro."I recently led an audience consisting primarily of Caucasian folks through an exercise where we identified common racial micro-aggressions. We discussed what behaviors, language cues, social skills etc. hobbies etc. constitute receiving the label of an ethnicity as an adjective.  Upon finishing the session I was greeted by an attendee who gushed; “I just love how you break down tough, controversial current topics on race relations. I was really challenged by your words, and was surprised by how comfortable I felt…
  • Transracial adoptee, Ethiopian adoptee or just Ethiopian?: Navigating identities

    Annette-Kassaye
    13 Jul 2015 | 8:36 pm
     Africa Is The Future. Photo by OkayAfrica  A friend sent me this article about transracial adoption and asked what my thoughts were. I agreed with everything that Angela and Lisa Marie said about transracial adoption, but it also had me thinking about how I identify myself as an adoptee. In North American adoption circles, I identify as an Ethiopian and transracial adoptee, but with the French-Ethiopian community, I (we) identify ourselves as Ethiopian adoptees only (we barely talk about race). With non-adoptees, I simply identify as Ethiopian. I think there are a few reasons for…
  • How to Respond to a New Adoption?

    Cathy Heslin
    13 Jul 2015 | 12:04 pm
    The Image of the Stork we see in society related to birth and adoptionI was at a party this weekend when I was introduced to a new mom and her baby. A person next to me commented to the mom on how fit and trim she was so soon after birth. The mom responded that the baby didn't come from her body, that she was adopted.While the conversation continued happily while I looked on silently, my thoughts reeling. Where was the mom? The original mom? Where was the family? Why did they decide to relinquish? Were they pressured? Did the birth dad have a say in the relinquishment? Does the adoptive…
 
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    Together for Adoption

  • Simple: trusting Jesus is simpler than imagined.

    Dan Cruver
    27 Jul 2015 | 3:41 pm
    As God, Jesus is himself the definitive Giver of God’s words. Only God can give God’s words. God’s words originate with God. He decides how they will be given to us or to angels.As man, Jesus is the perfect Receiver of God’s words. Man was created to be the receiver. God gives life and breath. We receive both. God gives love and gifts. We receive them. God is the Giver; man is the receiver.But here’s what’s unique about Jesus. Truly, he is one of a kind. There is—nor will there ever be—another Jesus. Since Jesus is both fully God and fully man, he alone…
  • My Perspective on the Headlines of Fox News, CNN, MSNBC, and Others

    Dan Cruver
    20 Jul 2015 | 11:57 am
    According to John 1:1-3, ultimate reality is not found in a single, solitary person, but in a fellowship of persons. The one who was with God and who also was God is none other than the Son of God, the Beloved of the Father. “All things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made” (John 1:3). And this Son, who was in the beginning with the Father, became flesh (John 1:14) and lived among us, and his glory was beheld by humanity, the glory as of the only Son from the Father.Ultimate reality, then, is not a single person God who creates in order that…
  • The Being and Nature of the Unborn Child: A Response to Planned Parenthood and the Atrocity of Corpse-Selling by Thomas F. Torrance

    Dan Cruver
    14 Jul 2015 | 1:18 pm
    A cesspool of wicked and deviant dehumanization of the unborn for the love of Mammon: Planned Parenthood and the Atrocity of Corpse-Selling (http://www.russellmoore.com/2015/07/14/planned-parenthood-and-the-atrocity-of-corpse-selling/).What is at stake is the systemic eradication of the being and nature of the unborn child. Scottish theologian Thomas F. Torrance masterfully deconstructs Planned Parenthood’s hellacious attempt to dehumanize the unborn for the sake of financial profit. The quotations at the top of this post can be found in the following full PDF article:…
  • Stop giving your life to Jesus. Stop it!

    Dan Cruver
    23 Jun 2015 | 10:31 am
    It’s not unusual for me to meet orphan care advocates, foster care and adoptive parents, and orphan prevention activists who feel burned out. The energy and enthusiasm that once characterized their efforts to advocate for orphaned and vulnerable children has all but evaporated. They are weary and heavy-laden (Matthew 11:28).“It’s not unusual for me to meet orphan care advocates who feel burned out. If that’s you…”Click To TweetBeing an orphan-caring, orphan-loving, orphan-serving advocate is eternally significant work. James tells us that the actual…
  • Good News for Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church and All Who Suffer

    Dan Cruver
    21 Jun 2015 | 1:53 pm
    “When the eternal Son of God became man, he ushered his infinite, flawless communion with the Father into the depths of our sin, pain, and suffering (see Mark 14:36), not impersonally but in a profoundly personal manner. Jesus’ communion with the Father and the Spirit did not detach or distance him from the brokenness of our world. To the contrary, it thrust him into the darkest depths of our fallen world in order that he might heal and deliver us through his death, burial, and resurrection.“At what point did the Father declare, ‘This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well…
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    AMERICAN INDIAN ADOPTEES

  • Adoptee looking for birthmother wants access to OBC in Minnesota

    29 Jul 2015 | 10:26 am
    Minnesota woman looking for birth mother wants access to birth c - KMSP-TVBy Trace HentzI was born in Minnesota and handled by Catholic Charities.This story was me at age 22.I bypassed the archaic laws and found a kind judge in Wisconsin who let me read my sealed adoption file. I could not keep copies of anything, of course. So I looked at the papers with young eyes, not even knowing what I was reading. I kept those notes and memorized them. Those two pieces of paper went with me when I moved. I still have them. (The pencil notes have faded now.)I found my mother first, but it took YEARS to…
  • Winnipeg adoptee one step closer to meeting her birth mother

    27 Jul 2015 | 10:36 am
    New Manitoba legislation helping adoptees reunite with blood-relatives CBC News Posted: Jul 27, 2015 Marla Gordon says she hopes to travel to Manitoba from Saskatoon to meet her birth mother in person. (Marla Gordon) A woman born in Winnipeg and put up for adoption as a child is one step closer to meeting her biological mom. Last month, the Manitoba government pushed through new legislation that makes it easier for children put up for adoption to find out the identities of their birth parents. Making adoption records publicly available has helped lead Marla Gordon from Saskatoon, where she…
  • NAJA Honors ICTMN’s Suzette Brewer for ICWA Investigations

    24 Jul 2015 | 8:17 am
    Vincent Schilling Photo. Brewer prefers asking the questions rather than answering them. Vincent Schilling | 7/22/15| INDIAN COUNTRY TODAY MEDIA Investigative journalist Suzette Brewer (Cherokee Nation) brought great honor to Indian Country Today Media Network when she received the 2015 NAJA Richard LaCourse/Gannett Foundation Al Neuharth Investigative Journalism Award on July 11, and took home a check for $5,000. The award recognizes “groundbreaking investigative work by a journalist or a team that creatively uses digital tools in the role of community watchdog.”Brewer, who…
  • Lost Daughters: We Were All Good Adoptees ... Once

    24 Jul 2015 | 7:15 am
    CLICK: Lost Daughters: We Were All Good Adoptees ... OnceAfter you read this post, I want you to remember that many adoptees did commit suicide. There were many, too many.Then read this excerpt from Light of Day Stories: Here are links to two medical journal articles:Genetic and Familial Environmental Effects on Suicide – An Adoption Study of SiblingsGenetics of Suicide: An OverviewSuicide, of course, feeds on trauma and depression, and does not discriminate based on economics and education.
  • Rosebud to welcome back adoptees

    22 Jul 2015 | 5:30 am
    Tiwahe GlukinIpi (Bringing the family back to life) By Brandon Ecoffey |  LCT Editor ROSEBUD, SD—Generations of Lakota people have been cast out in to the Native Diaspora by state and federal policies designed to break down traditional familial units. The citizens of the Rosebud Sioux Nation, however, are working to mend some of these relationships destroyed by government policy by welcoming home tribal citizens who were once thought of as lost. Since the inception of colonization in North America federal policy has been designed to erase the cultural bonds that Native people…
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    All In The Family of Adoption

  • Whose Child is James Elliott Rossler, Anyway?

    Robin
    28 Jul 2015 | 1:45 pm
    Just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse…they did. In an earlier post called Whose Child is She, Anyway?, I outlined what I consider to be the evolution of adoption practices throughout the 20th century and into the 21st, and where I believe those practices and beliefs have led us. But, apparently, my understanding […]
  • She Changed My Life

    Robin
    5 Jul 2015 | 5:31 am
    Lorraine Dusky, that is. It was the early 1990s. As a result of some changes in my personal life, I became interested in learning more about adoption and about my hidden past. So I decided to go to the library and do some research, when I came across an amazing book called Birthmark written by a […]
  • Whose Child is She, Anyway?

    Robin
    13 Jun 2015 | 2:11 pm
    One of the reasons Veronica and Dusten Brown’s story has affected me so profoundly is because it epitomizes the change in mindset that adoption has undergone in the last 60 plus years. It strikes at the core set of beliefs about adoption that have been evolving since at least World War II. Before WWII, children born […]
  • Unwanted

    Robin
    28 May 2015 | 5:06 am
    Unwanted. Isn’t that really the key? Isn’t that what makes being adopted hurt so darn much? To think that you were unwanted by your own parents, by the very people who created you and brought you into this world. In my opinion, there can be no more profound rejection than being rejected by one’s own […]
  • Dusten Brown in the news

    Robin
    21 May 2015 | 12:48 pm
    Once again, I have been brought to tears by the adoption story that has affected me like no other. Dusten Brown is in the news again giving his support to proposed changes in the ICWA so that the tragedy that happened to him will not happen to another family. We also want to congratulate Dusten […]
 
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    The Adoption Trail - 4 Generations

  • Death, Adoption, & Redemption

    Jill Methvin
    31 Jul 2015 | 10:00 pm
    My adoptive mother passed away on June 15, at the age of 91. She endured a lingering illness that spread over eight years. With the exception of two years, she spent the rest living in our home. During the last eighteen months of her life, Hospice came multiple times each week to give her baths, […]
  • Eldercare: Caring for My Adoptive Mother

    Jill Methvin
    1 May 2015 | 6:46 am
    “She’s on Hospice.” That’s a telling statement. You don’t have to know much about Hospice to get an immediate feel for the mood. Death. Imminent. I don’t mind talking about my mother and the years that she has lived with us as her health declined. She has lived in our home on and off for […]
  • Adoption Loss and Suicide

    Jill Methvin
    2 Mar 2015 | 12:36 pm
    I’m sick of adoption loss. My husband and I went to the accountant to file our 2014 income tax. Since our son passed away last year and we are his next of kin, we are expected by the IRS to file his last return. I’m not sure why this hurts more than some of the […]
  • Prolife or Probirth

    Jill Methvin
    26 Feb 2015 | 1:16 pm
    I love the Lord and I’m definitely prolife. However, I’m insulted when confronted by some prolife/probirth members wanting me to pay them gratitude that I’m alive today, just because I’m adopted. There is a distinct difference between prolife members and probirth. Prolife members are interested in caring for the poor through the long haul. Probirth […]
  • Adoption and Education: What schools and teachers don’t understand

    Jill Methvin
    3 Feb 2015 | 11:54 am
    Some of the most traumatized children sitting inside classrooms are those children who have experienced the entire loss of their God given family, for whatever reason. Those children are either currently in the foster care system, an orphanage, or have been transferred to the care of an adoptive family. These children are at-risk and do […]
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    America Adopts

  • To The People Who Say “I Could Never Give My Kid Up For Adoption”

    Lawrence
    28 Jul 2015 | 6:02 am
    This guest post is by Ashlee Amraen, a birthmother. “I could never give my kid up for adoption.” That’s the response I usually get whenever I tell people about my decision to find adoptive parents for my twins. But, you see, I didn’t give them up. I placed them. My adoption story began in May 2011. I was 21 at the time and my life was far from stable. I knew I wasn’t in a position to raise them. Placing my twins for adoption wasn’t a decision I made lightly. I spent months thinking about it and trying to find the perfect family for my boys until eventually I found them.
  • As A Waiting Parent I Was Living In The Future. This Is How I Found Beauty In The Present

    Lawrence
    21 Jul 2015 | 7:06 am
    This guest post is by Sarah Farrar, a hopeful adoptive mother and blogger.  I confess, as a waiting adoptive parent, I had been living in the future. This is a tale about how I found beauty, and a way to live, in the present. On the day I realized that 2015 is half over, my heart sunk. I instantly started dreading spending another Christmas holiday season still waiting to adopt. I turned to my husband, John, and said, “If we haven’t adopted by the holidays, we are spending Christmas at the beach”. I didn’t allow myself to think of how much can happen in six months. How our last…
  • To The Woman Who Adopted My Baby

    Lawrence
    14 Jul 2015 | 5:18 am
    This guest post is by Amanda Miah, a birthmother and author. To The Woman Who Adopted My Baby, Not every woman is as brave as you. You had the courage to put your trust and hopes in me, when I was just a teenager who you barely knew. While I carried the baby, you stood close by; a supporting spectator, surely wondering if I’d follow through on our agreement. You had the courage to put all your cards on the table with no guarantee on my part. You had the courage to risk having your heart broken. You are brave. For a brief period you needed me. You needed me to take on a healthy…
  • Why I’m Making A Film About An Adoption That Happened Nearly 100 Years Ago

    Lawrence
    7 Jul 2015 | 7:48 am
    This guest post is by Jennifer Kachler, a filmmaker. Since I was a child, I grew up being conscious that my Nana (my Mother’s Mother) was adopted. It was a story she would share with us like the many other stories she would tell us about her childhood. She was born in 1924 in Maine and adopted when she was 9 months old. She never knew her birth parents or if she had any siblings. As I got older and understood more about adoption and family ancestry, I questioned her why she never searched for her birth family. Being the oldest of four daughters, I have a strong bond with my sisters and our…
  • What’s The Difference Between Open and Closed Adoption?

    Lawrence
    30 Jun 2015 | 7:00 am
    This guest post is by Karie Boyd, an adoption attorney. What’s the difference between open and closed adoption? If you’re hoping to adopt or thinking about placing your baby for adoption, you may be asking yourself that question and wondering which route is right for you and your child. There are many misconceptions about adoption, and about open and closed adoption in particular. Adopting a baby or placing a baby for adoption is a complicated and deeply personal decision. Each one has its advantages and disadvantages. At the end of the day, it comes down to a number of…
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    Canada Adopts

  • 41 Things You Wish People Wouldn’t Say About Adoption

    Lawrence
    30 Jul 2015 | 7:37 am
    It’s estimated that one in five people are touched by adoption. If you don’t have a personal connection to it, chances are you know someone who does. And yet despite the increased awareness about adoption and the countless families that have been created through it, many people are still in the dark about what adoption means and how it works. As a result, you may have found yourself on the receiving end of a question or comment that rubbed you the wrong way. This week we asked our Facebook community to share the one thing they wished people wouldn’t say about adoption.
  • The Video Hopeful Parents Who Question If They Can Love An Adopted Child Should See

    Lawrence
    23 Jul 2015 | 6:13 am
    We’ve all been there as hopeful adoptive parents: On the one hand, you have this intense yearning to bring a child into your home. But on the other hand, the deeper you get into the adoption process and the more horror stories you hear, the more you question whether you’re really cut out to become an adoptive parent and can love a child who is not biologically related to you. Is the bonding process for an adopted child the same as it is for a biological one? If not, how is it different? And how long does it take? Adoption is full of unknowns and one of the biggest uncertainties…
  • Why We Chose Open Adoption As A Same Sex Couple

    Lawrence
    16 Jul 2015 | 3:00 am
    This guest post is by Tommy, a hopeful adoptive parent. My husband Austin and I have been together for just over eight years. From the very start of our relationship, we quickly established that we both wanted kids to be part of the picture. We just weren’t exactly sure how it would come about. We have come to decide on adoption as our preferred means, but we didn’t start there. Originally, we considered building our family through surrogacy. We liked the idea of having a genetic tie to our child, and surrogacy seemed to us the closest way a gay couple like us could ‘give birth’ to a…
  • Why I Hate the Phrase “Put Up for Adoption”

    Lawrence
    9 Jul 2015 | 7:58 am
    This guest post is by Kristen, a waiting adoptive parent. “Hate” is a strong word, I know. There are many myths surrounding domestic adoption, but one of the biggest is that the birthmother doesn’t care about her child. We need to put that myth to rest, right now.  Birthmothers love their babies. They want what is best for their child, even if it means placing that child into the arms of another loving family. A birthmother puts her baby at the forefront of her life as an act of love. It’s a decision that is not made without considerable difficulty, turmoil and grief. But…
  • 18 Motivating Quotes To Inspire You While You Wait To Adopt

    Lawrence
    2 Jul 2015 | 7:30 am
    Summertime, and the livin’ is easy. That is, unless you’re waiting to adopt, in which case things couldn’t be harder. While other couples are outside with their baby strollers or playing with their children in the park, you’re cooped up inside waiting for the phone to ring and wondering if your turn will ever come. But in the same way that winter turns to spring and spring gives way to summer, you need to believe that things will not only change, but change for the better. And so, in keeping with the summery vibe, here are 18 motivational quotes to boost your…
 
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    Great Wall, Pandas, and Mcdonald's

  • Another rung on the Ladder!

    Sean Fahey
    1 Aug 2015 | 2:28 pm
    After many months of trying to get Elana insurance, we have finally got her coverage.  Elana will see a doctor Monday.  We will be able to start her checkups and find out if anything can be done about her eyes.  Also, Angie can start lining up assistance from groups like Lighthouse.  We also plan to start advocating more for groups like Reece's Rainbow.  Don't be surprised if I start showing children that need donations.  We will probably also try more fundraisers and try to figure out ways to help the orphans and maybe even the orphanages.
  • Olympic Buildings

    Sean Fahey
    1 Aug 2015 | 2:20 pm
    Sorry for the delay.  I had to work today.  Here are the pictures of the Olympic buildings:
  • If at First you Don't Succeed, Try, Try Again

    Sean Fahey
    31 Jul 2015 | 9:10 am
    We got bad news the other day, of which I will go into further detail in the future.  We got turned down for something of which does not make sense.  We are going back with more information.  We are always up front with our information.  I just want to got into great detail.  They have to understand where we are coming from.  I think we do a good job.  Hopefully, this will come back approved.  Eventually I will come out with it.  It just shows how things like this can become frustrating, especially when you have made it through with no questions in…
  • China 2022

    Sean Fahey
    31 Jul 2015 | 4:18 am
    China is getting another Olympics.  We got to visit one year after the Summer Olympics.  The buildings were really neat.  Come back this weekend, and I will post the ones that we took.  I wonder if we will be adopting one last time around that date.  As our girls get older and leave the coop, we may want to give another child that forever family.  I think the cut off for both parents is 50 years of age.  I have a few to go before that date.  If I am factoring correctly, it will be around 2022.  Maybe this is a sign of encouragement from the…
  • Optimistic Outlook on Life

    Sean Fahey
    30 Jul 2015 | 9:33 am
    I try to have an optimistic outlook on life.  Yes, I do get disappointed when things don't go the way I imagine them.  Fundraising for instance.  I had these grand plans that people would shower us for the good deeds we do.  That was totally wrong.  But this is not about that.  I will still try to advocate for the children.  We got news that is not as great as we hoped for.  One day, I hope to talk about it.  I will do so good or bad.  I find some of these blogs to be therapeutic.  If I talk to Angie, she tends to fall on the pessimistic…
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