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  • In the Sprit if the Holidays; Adoption by Gentle Care is a Grinch

    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    19 Dec 2014 | 11:11 am
    We have given them multiple outs practically on silver platter and they keep on hurting themselves and then try to blame others for their actions. Really, it's simply a matter of choice and consequences. They choose to keep on doing the wrong thing and then the consequence of that choice is that people are critical. If you want people to stop thinking bad things about you, then perhaps a novel idea would be to STOP doing the very thing that you are being criticized for. How many times to I... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Christmas Box: Unlocking the Pain of Separation

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    Lori Lavender Luz
    17 Dec 2014 | 11:30 am
    Three years ago, my friend Linda Schellentrager released her son into the care of someone else. She wrote this post about how this experience gave her a new sense of empathy for another mother who also experienced such a pain of separation. My Own Christmas Box I am an adoptive mom. An oh-so-proud adoptive mom […] The post Christmas Box: Unlocking the Pain of Separation appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Therapy Is Expensive
    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    24 Nov 2014 | 6:41 pm
    They’re killing our kids. Is there nothing to be done? Just screaming into a pillow as the tears fall. I’m not surprised not even a little. But I really didn’t want to be right. Not this time, not last time or the time before or the one that comes next. I don’t want to feel relief that my son looks white …but i do.
  • The Ultimate Travel Kit For Your Business Trip

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    Ashley Roberts
    16 Dec 2014 | 3:26 pm
    Business travel is a fairly common occurrence in this day and age, from the fly-in, fly-out jobs to the large companies with multiple office locations. And although the idea of travelling for business seems like fun in hindsight, it can actually be fairly stressful. So to help ease some of the burden, have a look at the below ideas that could help form your ultimate travel kit. Size Matters When it comes to your luggage, the smaller it is the better. If you’re travelling for business, the last thing you want to be doing is standing in long queues to either drop off or pick up your bags. By…
  • One Size Fits All Parenting

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    Dawn
    11 Dec 2014 | 8:42 am
    This is the problem with parenting advice even really good parenting advice. Sure you can give pretty safe general advice if you look at a child’s developmental stage and you can give even better general advice if you also take the child’s temperament into account and then if you have some time to sit down and discuss the family culture and the school culture (if the child is in school) and the broader world in which the child exists, then you can give pretty good advice because it’s not general anymore. Let’s take discussions about Ferguson. In one of my professional…
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    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth

  • In the Sprit if the Holidays; Adoption by Gentle Care is a Grinch

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    19 Dec 2014 | 11:11 am
    We have given them multiple outs practically on silver platter and they keep on hurting themselves and then try to blame others for their actions. Really, it's simply a matter of choice and consequences. They choose to keep on doing the wrong thing and then the consequence of that choice is that people are critical. If you want people to stop thinking bad things about you, then perhaps a novel idea would be to STOP doing the very thing that you are being criticized for. How many times to I... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • That Last Night of Gothic Innocence

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    12 Dec 2014 | 1:53 pm
    Yup, I went out and partied till God knows when in the AM with all my Goth friends on the Saturday night, then went to NYC in the Sunday to be wined and dined by my much older/ boss/boyfriend/lover. The sponge failed and Max became. Looking at these pictures now, they have so much more significance. Of course, I didn't know at the time, but inside me a tiny egg was ripening and getting ready to go forth. Now, I see the last night of my non-adoption affected existence. I see the very last... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Helping Our Ethiopian Mothers and Families

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    11 Dec 2014 | 10:54 am
    Over 27,000 children have been adopted from Ethiopia in the last decade. Ethiopian Adoption Connection is reconnecting families once thought lost to each other through adoption. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Meanwhile Ohio Legislators Screw Over Fathers’ Rights

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    10 Dec 2014 | 8:19 am
    The Bill Hurts EVERYONE, but the Adoption Industry! And yes, this bill is sneaky. The Father's Rights groups in Ohio had NO idea this was happening. No other stakeholders have been asked. This bill is somehow being pushed through on behalf of the adoption industry as it benefits THEM. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Flipping Learning- Shut Your Pie Hole

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    8 Dec 2014 | 8:46 am
    Yeah it might be hard sometimes.. for all the parents involved.. adoptive and birth parents...but the role I have taken for #FliptheScript is to just Re-post, re-tweet, re-share, but not redirect. I always remember, it's not about me. It's about the adoptee as it always should be. I'm just a parent doing the best I can to support the rights of my child…even though the voices of others. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
 
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  • Christmas Box: Unlocking the Pain of Separation

    Lori Lavender Luz
    17 Dec 2014 | 11:30 am
    Three years ago, my friend Linda Schellentrager released her son into the care of someone else. She wrote this post about how this experience gave her a new sense of empathy for another mother who also experienced such a pain of separation. My Own Christmas Box I am an adoptive mom. An oh-so-proud adoptive mom […] The post Christmas Box: Unlocking the Pain of Separation appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Adoption Therapy: On Blank Slate Babies & Being Open

    Lori Lavender Luz
    11 Dec 2014 | 7:30 am
    There’s a new book out and I think it’s so valuable for adoptive parents, adoption professionals, and adoption therapists that I’m going to share with you here an excerpt from it. When Editor Laura Dennis asked me to read the manuscript for Adoption Therapy: Perspectives from Clients and Clinicians on Processing and Healing Post-Adoption Issues, […] The post Adoption Therapy: On Blank Slate Babies & Being Open appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • #flipthescript — What’s an Adoptive Parent to Do?

    Lori Lavender Luz
    6 Dec 2014 | 9:30 am
    I am drawn to the writings of articulate, gentle-yet-incisive people. Barbara Freedgood guest posts today about the impact the #flipthescript movement had on her as an adoptive mom and therapist. She addresses the question that many readers may have had last month as they read the not-so-secret thoughts of adult adoptees: So now that I […] The post #flipthescript — What’s an Adoptive Parent to Do? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Author Q&A: Brandi Rarus Answers Questions about Finding Zoe

    Lori Lavender Luz
    4 Dec 2014 | 5:45 am
    What was the social worker’s take on this story? What is the relationship like between birth mom and birth dad today? How did you decide how much of your daughter’s story to share? ~~~~~ We’ve wrapped up the book tour for Brandi Rarus’ memoir, Finding Zoe,  and today we have the author herself answering questions […] The post Author Q&A: Brandi Rarus Answers Questions about Finding Zoe appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Readers Discuss the Adoption Memoir Finding Zoe

    Lori Lavender Luz
    2 Dec 2014 | 5:00 am
    But what about supporting the birth father when he indicates an interest in parenting? Why didn’t we hear from the social worker involved? What about a sense of destiny — a meant-to-be-ness — in an adoption scenario? These are just a few of the questions posed by virtual book club readers who are sharing thoughts […] The post Readers Discuss the Adoption Memoir Finding Zoe appeared first on Lavender Luz.
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    Therapy Is Expensive

  • Kat Nielsen, MSW
    24 Nov 2014 | 6:41 pm
    They’re killing our kids. Is there nothing to be done? Just screaming into a pillow as the tears fall. I’m not surprised not even a little. But I really didn’t want to be right. Not this time, not last time or the time before or the one that comes next. I don’t want to feel relief that my son looks white …but i do.
  • Without A Map

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    1 Nov 2014 | 8:55 pm
    There’s no roadmap for open adoption. We’re all just figuring it out as we go. But for spouses/partners/significant others of birth parents (and adoptees) the course is even less clear, which is why it’s all the more impressive that TeacherMan is such a freaking rock star this weekend. He met Kidlet and M a year ago on our turf. Then six months ago Kidlet came to visit us. However, this weekend we’re in their state, for their event, surrounded by their extended family. TeacherMan is taking it all in stride and being super attentive to any possible emotional needs I…
  • Sometimes It’s Hard

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    16 Oct 2014 | 8:17 pm
    Sometimes it’s hard being a Black* Chick married to a White Guy.  Being a six hour plane ride from my family and only a 45 minute from his makes it harder.  We spend a lot of time with them which only increases the amount of time I spend in soley white spaces.  White, conservative, Christian spaces. It takes a lot of energy to be the right kind of me for that. I always end the evening drained. I don’t say this to play the martyr. I LOVE my sister-in-law even if she was born in the 90s and I have to exclaim “WHY ARE YOU SO YOUNG” way too often when she doesn’t…
  • What’s This Really About?

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    13 Oct 2014 | 4:06 pm
    I ask myself as I crouch down on my sister in law’s porch. Trying to wipe away the tears that are coming way too fast for it to be about the lack of competence of such a trivial skill. Biting back accusations instead of hurling them at my husband is a step in the right direction, but why am I even thinking them? Is he happy I failed? Will he get joy from my embarrassment? Where is this coming from? What’s this really about? Dark thoughts swirl in my brain. I believe myself when I swear these types of thoughts don’t exist. They’ve been gone long enough it’s like…
  • Fight, Flight, or Freeze

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    22 Aug 2014 | 6:25 am
    I sat in my therapist’s office crying. Heart racing. Feeling like I couldn’t breathe. I reminded myself that while I felt like I coudn’t breathe I was in fact breathing. I took some deep abdominal breaths. I heard her voice, but it wasn’t really registering. I froze. I just needed a few moments to center and ground myself. A few moments of silence to pull myself together. She kept talking. I’m not sure what she was really saying, but her tone grew increasingly frustrated and in turn frustrating. I had been trying to get myself together, to continue the session.
 
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  • The Ultimate Travel Kit For Your Business Trip

    Ashley Roberts
    16 Dec 2014 | 3:26 pm
    Business travel is a fairly common occurrence in this day and age, from the fly-in, fly-out jobs to the large companies with multiple office locations. And although the idea of travelling for business seems like fun in hindsight, it can actually be fairly stressful. So to help ease some of the burden, have a look at the below ideas that could help form your ultimate travel kit. Size Matters When it comes to your luggage, the smaller it is the better. If you’re travelling for business, the last thing you want to be doing is standing in long queues to either drop off or pick up your bags. By…
  • How To Look After Your Baby When He’s Under The Weather

    Ashley Roberts
    14 Dec 2014 | 6:57 pm
    If you’ve recently bought a new life into the world, congratulations are most certainly in order. Unfortunately, the hard work has only just begun. Now you have to think about keeping the little fellow happy and well. There are lots of conditions that can affect babies, and so it’s important that you learn how to identify common symptoms. The internet is packed with articles that offer great information that might be of some use. Just spend some time reading and researching. At some point, all babies will feel a little under the weather. That doesn’t mean there is anything majorly…
  • Cheap and Simple Ways To Fix Up Your Home

    Ashley Roberts
    1 Dec 2014 | 9:46 pm
    Do you have your family coming over to your home for the holidays? If you do, you need to make sure that your house is as nice as it can be so that you impress people. There is nothing worse than letting the way your home looks embarrass you. You need to be house-proud, and show people how lovely your home is. Cleaning is never much fun. If you don’t have a big budget for fixing up your home, don’t worry. You don’t have to spend loads of money on your home for it to look amazing. Here are some simple and cheap ways to fix up your home. Credit: Advait Supnekar Clean your…
  • 5 Steps to Creating a Child-Friendly Kitchen

    Ashley Roberts
    29 Nov 2014 | 4:19 pm
    Children are one of life’s greatest blessings. But, when it comes to interior design, they can wreak havoc on your plans. Suddenly, as a parent, you are more safety conscious than you have ever been. The kitchen, for the average momma, feels like a death trap. Creating a child-friendly kitchen suddenly becomes top of your priorities. If you want to make sure that your family home is a little more child-friendly, here are some great ways that you can do. In fact, there are five easy steps that you should take when you are creating a child-friendly kitchen.    Rethink Your Kitchen Storage…
  • Why You Should Think About a Sunroom for Your Next Renovation

    Ashley Roberts
    25 Nov 2014 | 8:54 am
    Don’t have enough space for entertaining guests? Planning to renovate and want to merge your outdoors with your indoors? Then a sunroom is perfect for you. A sunroom will give you space and light and the lifestyle change you have been looking for. Follow below for just a few reasons why you should consider adding a sunroom to your home. Perfect For Entertaining Sunrooms and entertaining go hand in hand. They are the perfect room to host your next party. Entertaining outside is wonderful, especially under a patio, but it can be uncomfortable when the weather turns bad. With a sunroom it…
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  • One Size Fits All Parenting

    Dawn
    11 Dec 2014 | 8:42 am
    This is the problem with parenting advice even really good parenting advice. Sure you can give pretty safe general advice if you look at a child’s developmental stage and you can give even better general advice if you also take the child’s temperament into account and then if you have some time to sit down and discuss the family culture and the school culture (if the child is in school) and the broader world in which the child exists, then you can give pretty good advice because it’s not general anymore. Let’s take discussions about Ferguson. In one of my professional…
  • Thankful

    Dawn
    27 Nov 2014 | 5:08 am
    This beautiful video was making the rounds a few years ago. This is something I am unlikely to ever see in person and I feel lucky that I get to see it here and I am thankful for all the beauty in the world, the seen and the unseen. For those of you celebrating, I hope you have a lovely time. For those of you facing hard times, may this day land easily. Murmuration from Islands & Rivers on Vimeo. The post Thankful appeared first on Building Family Counseling. Possibly related posts: Drinking in the morning sun Eat Happy dancing
  • Helping Kids with Anxiety

    Dawn
    26 Nov 2014 | 9:52 am
    This is Goldilocks. She’s having a tough time. This is the final post in the 3-part series about helping kids with anxiety. I reserve the right to blog more about it in the future because it’s a big topic and this is so general. Onward! To the helping! Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT is the counseling modality of choice for kids (and adults) with anxiety. Research on effective anxiety therapies tend to focus on these three areas: Understanding and addressing the physical response to anxiety Recognizing and challenging the thinking errors that perpetuate anxiety Using…
  • Child Anxiety Symptoms

    Dawn
    25 Nov 2014 | 7:53 am
    There isn’t one way to be anxious so when we look for child anxiety symptoms, we need to be aware that they will manifest differently in different kids. This is a very (very) broad overview of the kinds of anxiety disorders seen in kids. And remember, it goes from regular worry to a concerning disorder when the anxiety gets in the way of functioning. Ready? Ok. Most Common Anxiety Diagnoses Generalized Anxiety Disorder Kids with generalized anxiety have excessive worry across a variety of situations. They worry about missing the bus, about whether the kids at camp will like him, or…
  • Anxiety in Kids

    Dawn
    24 Nov 2014 | 8:19 am
    Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health diagnosis in kids; ten to twenty percent of all children will meet criteria for an anxiety disorder before the age of 18. But it’s hard for parents to figure out when worry is part of typical child development and when it’s a concern. Some anxiety in kids is normal. Anxiety can inspire children to do stuff like wash their hands and double-check their homework. Anxiety becomes an issue  when kids get stuck in it to the point where its getting in the way of their lives. For example, it’s fine if a child double-checks his…
 
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  • Honor adoptees by honoring their privacy

    Margie Perscheid
    17 Dec 2014 | 4:51 am
    There has been a lot of talk this week in my online circles around a post by a popular adoptive parent blogger about her kids and the holidays - "parenting kids who sabotage big days," as she puts it.Kids and sabotage are words I really don't like hearing in the same sentence. And although I am sure there are legions of Jen Hatmaker supporters who are ready to carry her banner and dismiss anyone who disagrees, I say that much of the behavior Ms. Hatmaker describes is a result of parental behaviors that focus far more on their own agendas and not early as much as they should on what kids…
  • Status Hearing in the Kim Hyunsu Murder Case

    Margie Perscheid
    8 Dec 2014 | 11:52 am
    I attended a status hearing that was held today in Montgomery County Circuit Court in the case of Brian Patrick O’Callaghan, the Damascus, MD man charged with the murder of little Kim Hyunsu, whom O’Callaghan and his wife adopted in February of 2014.The hearing took place in the courtroom of Judge John W. Debelius, III. The defendant, Brian Patrick O’Callaghan, was present, along with his attorneys, Steven J. McCool and Julia M. Fisher of the law firm of Mallon & McCool. Two prosecutors represented the State of Maryland, who from what I was able to hear during the…
  • A Flipped Script and a Homecoming #flipthescript

    Margie Perscheid
    29 Nov 2014 | 9:07 am
    You are not seeing things. I have come back.I have learned the hard way that moving around in blogland isn't a smart thing to do. I still get more traffic here than at Paradigm Shift, which I find amusing since I haven't posted here in a couple of years. But there you go.Through the magic of technology I have been able to bring Paradigm Shift's content here. I will leave a few posts there, because I do have a plan for that site, a plan that needs some reform-minded adoptive parents to bring it to fruition. I'd like it to become a place where reform-minded adoptive parents can post and share…
  • Listen to adoption experiences, speak to adoption issues

    Margie Perscheid
    3 Nov 2014 | 9:01 am
    It’s that time of year again: National Adoption Awareness (or Bewareness, for some) Month. For the next 30 days, we will be bombarded with opinions on adoption even more than we usually are. Some will promote adoption on behalf of orphans around the world, others will decry the evils of corrupt adoption facilitators and laws that deny adoptees their identities. In adoptionland, expecially online adoptionland, this means that there will be lots of debates about the pros and cons of adoption and the rights of those living it to speak their truths.Often, the debates have less to do with facts…
  • HLN's Nancy Grace covers the murder of Hyunsu Kim

    Margie Perscheid
    14 Oct 2014 | 10:20 am
    HLN’s Nancy Grace brought little Kim Hyunsu’s murder case into the national media limelight on Monday October 13th when she aired a segment providing an overview of the case and its current status (transcript here).Grace began the segment with a theme she repeated throughout: Did Brian Patrick O’Callaghan receive preferential treatment in the adoption process or as a suspect in this case because of his status within NSA? She and Dan Morse of the Washington Post, who covers Montgomery County, Maryland for the Post and co-authored the initial Post article about the case, provided the…
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    25 Nov 2014 | 5:01 am
    Finding Vintage DisneyanaVintage Disneyana has become a personal passion of mine.  I’ve been searching for it for years now.  I attend art auctions regularly, but usually only find vintage Disneyana at a small percentage of them.Jual Baju KoreaI found a darling 1938 Knickerbocker Mickey Mouse dressed in a Santa suit at an art auction a few years ago.  This was an extraordinary vintage Disneyana find.  There was some very fine crazing to the face, but no flakes in the paint.I did some research after the art auction and it turns out that my vintage Disneyana has quite a…
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  • Giving up your baby before he's born

    17 Dec 2014 | 5:42 pm
    Mother and child, photo by Lisa RobertsShould the law allow mothers to sign consents for adoption before the birth of their child? A few states already allow a woman to sign away her baby before the baby is born. This is outrageous and absurd, asking a vulnerable woman at a time her hormones are going bonkers to make a decision that will affect her and the as-yet-unborn child for their entire lives, as well as the generations to come.You want to ask--What were they thinking? when someone came up with this horrendous idea. Sign here! and we'll give  you a gold watch to boot? You know…
  • Waiting on the sidelines: Peter Kassig's first mother

    15 Dec 2014 | 12:17 pm
    JaneFirst mother Rhonda Schwindt waited for months for news of her son, Peter Kassig, until she learned from news reports that he had been beheaded by ISIS. Because she was Peter's first mother, not the legal next-of-kin, the U.S. government refused to keep her in the information loop.Rhonda Schwindt placed Peter as a newborn for adoption with Paula and Ed Kassig, who kept in touch with her over the years, she told Barbara Harrington of Indiana Public Media. Schwindt later married and had two children, Jana and Sam. When Peter turned 18, he asked to meet his first mother, and they were able…
  • Adopted or Not?

    10 Dec 2014 | 11:48 am
    This caught my eye a few weeks ago and...I thought of all that I have learned from adoptees. How do you feel when you see this picture? Write down the first thing that comes to mind and leave it as a comment, please.--lorraineTO READ  How It Feels to Be Adopted "Adoptive parents, when you buy your first picturebook about how your adopted child came into your family, purchase this book, as well. Read it immediately, and then tuck it on the bookshelf for future reference."This book is based on personal interviews of adopted children between the ages of 8 and 16. They share their…
  • Should 'adopted' be mentioned when people are in the news?

    8 Dec 2014 | 6:49 pm
    Peter Kassig and his biological sister, JanaThe news the other day about Grace and Matthew Huang, who were finally cleared of starving their adopted daughter to death, in Qatar always mentioned: adopted daughter. They are Americans of Asian decent, the daughter was from Ghana, as were the other two children the Huang's adopted. But as the media followed their story, the word "adopted" always preceded "daughter."Qatar does not allow adoption, and so the family was rare in that country. The Huangs were suspected of having adopted the girl to harvest her organs or for medical experiments. The…
  • How did the Romanian adoptees fare? Better than those left behind.

    7 Dec 2014 | 6:50 am
    From a Romanian charity, see belowHow did the Romanian children who were adopted by wealthier families in the West compare to those who were raised in institutions?One of the complicated issues of international adoption is whether are children are better off being adopted into a foreign culture, thousands of miles from their original habitat, or left to grow up in institutions in their native country--if homes cannot be found for them there. Most often the institutions that would-be adoptive parents visit are gruesome hell holes; yet we do know that in a great many cases, the operators of…
 
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  • Sunday Gratitude 12.21.14

    Lisa Qualls
    21 Dec 2014 | 7:15 am
    giving thanks #1551 – 1560 celebrating Katie’s birthday today Amazon Prime (thank you, thank you) nearing the end of Christmas shopping menus planned and groceries purchased for the week a lovely piano recital for Annarose and Sunshine (despite Annarose being sick) New Year’s cards that will be right on time the peace of a sleeping […]
  • Five Hints for Avoiding a Gift Fiasco

    Lisa Qualls
    19 Dec 2014 | 9:05 am
    This post was originally published last year, but it bears repeating. Reading it this morning, I was reminded of some helpful preparation I can do with my kids in the next few days. Christmas is coming and gifts will be exchanged. Even the healthiest, happiest kids have difficulty navigating how to receive and give thanks […]
  • Our Imperfect Advent

    Lisa Qualls
    18 Dec 2014 | 7:19 am
    Advent goes best when I keep my expectations low – that’s actually true of all holidays at our house. We’re one day behind on our Jesse Tree and Unwrapping the Greatest Gift: A Family Celebration of Christmas, and nearly a week behind on Jotham’s Journey: A Storybook for Advent. But it doesn’t matter one bit […]
  • New Every Morning

    Lisa Qualls
    17 Dec 2014 | 7:23 am
    Thank you, friends, for leaving comments of hope and encouragement. God answered your prayers in an interesting way – my child got sick and couldn’t go to school. I was able to give more nurture and let her rest. I could make a long list of the many possible triggers, but Christmas and sickness are […]
  • Downs and Ups

    Lisa Qualls
    16 Dec 2014 | 6:48 am
    Life is filled with ups and downs. The last two weeks we’ve had more downs than ups with one of our kids and I find that fear is creeping in and weighing on me.  Each day I wake up telling myself that God’s mercies to me are new every morning, and my mercies toward my […]
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  • Merry Christmas from Beer and Hymns

    21 Dec 2014 | 10:19 am
    Every year for the past nine years my friend Neil Kramer of Citizen of the Month has hosted an annual online concert featuring bloggers performing their favorite holiday standards. Neil’s intention in the concert was to bring the blogging community together, regardless of race or religion, for some holiday fun. I decided to enlist my Beer and Hymns crew (Chad and Lauren) to sing Joy To The World with me, since we were already working on our Christmas gathering. (And if you are local, you missed a really fun party at The Boathouse. Join us at the next event January…
  • Mama Said: Real talk about being a blogger

    20 Dec 2014 | 5:50 am
    In this episode Sarah and I are having a real-talk discussion about the ins, the outs, and the aggravations of being a professional blogger.
  • Get one, give one: making donations at Christmas

    19 Dec 2014 | 6:30 am
    This post is sponsored by Savers.We have tried really hard to avoid being too consumerist over the holidays. We attempt to limit the kids' toys, and try really hard to focus on experiences over things. For example, this Christmas, a bulk of our children's presents involve tickets to see some Broadway shows throughout the coming year.However, there will be some new toys and new clothes under the tree this Christmas. A couple of the kids still have Big Ideas about Santa and have made their requests. Each child has a couple items that they have been asking for all year, and Christmas is also the…
  • How to get kids to help clean

    18 Dec 2014 | 4:00 am
    This post is sponsored by The Honest Company My kids are  just turning the corner where their ability to help me clean almost matches their ability to make a mess. They are gaining more autonomy and responsibility, and with the exception of my 5-year-old, I can finally enlist the three older kids to help me out in getting the house back to baseline.  It’s a nice place to be, after several years of feeling like a maid to a four-man wrecking crew. Getting my kids to help with cleaning still involves a bit of cattle-prodding, but here are some of the ways that I get them…
  • What adoptive parents will want to know about the new ANNIE movie

    17 Dec 2014 | 3:00 pm
    I saw a screening of the new Annie movie last week, and since it opens this week, I wanted to give a head's up to other families touched by adoption. Most of us are familiar with the Annie story, and that it revolves heavily around her orphan status, her search for her birth family, and relationship with a new father figure. This movie followed the same plotlines, but there were aspects of the retelling that may be more poignant for adopted children. The adoption/abandonment themes were heavy-handed. In this story Annie is abandoned at age 4 - not as an infant. She remembers her…
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  • Seasons of change … and waiting

    Julie Gumm
    2 Dec 2014 | 8:07 pm
    As the leaves fall from the trees here in beautiful Northwest Arkansas, we have passed a major step in our season of change. Our Phoenix house is sold. While it seemed like forever, in all it only took 10 weeks to get a buyer. And interestingly enough the day we accepted the offer our realtor got another call from someone who wanted to make an offer. Sometimes God provides in abundance. So now we can turn our attention to house hunting. We love living in a small town but that does mean the inventory is somewhat limited. Especially for a family our size. While we don’t need a mansion…
  • Lashes for Landon – Adoption Fundraiser

    Julie Gumm
    21 Oct 2014 | 6:27 am
    Remember my post a few weeks ago about the 3D Fiber Lashes and the party I was hosting. Well in a hilarious (to me) turn of events, I am now selling the stuff. Yes, I loved it THAT much! One of the fun things about being a Younique consultant is that I can now do adoption fundraisers for people. Like for this little guy, Landon….   Here’s a bit from his mom, Cheryl… After my husband died 2 1/2 years ago, I had no idea where my life was going. I had two young children to raise alone, and half way through the process of an international adoption of a little special needs…
  • Breakfast With Santa Adoption Fundraiser

    Julie Gumm
    23 Sep 2014 | 11:00 pm
    Seem a little early to be thinking about Christmas? It’s not, I promise! The holidays offer some great adoption fundraiser ideas and I especially love this one from the Teply family. They added Santa to their pancake breakfast fundraiser! A pancake breakfast fundraiser is a great idea in itself. Families have made several thousand dollars with this idea (like the Burden family). But give a mom a chance to get her kids pictures with Santa WITHOUT going to the mall and you have hit the jackpot!! No mom wants to stand in line for an hour (or more) for the over-priced photo in which their…
  • My beauty product splurge – 3D Fiber Lashes

    Julie Gumm
    15 Sep 2014 | 6:57 am
    I don’t review a lot of products on this blog, and I certainly don’t review beauty products regularly, but today that’s what you’re getting. So if you’re one of my male readers feel free to move on to the next blog post of the day now A few weeks before we moved my friend Jen was over for a late night editing session and she asked me if I had ever heard of 3D Mascara. She proceeded to fill me in on this weird sounding stuff where you put green tea fibers on your eyelashes. Say what? Anyways, fast forward a couple months and someone invited me to an online party…
  • The Whole World Wants a Job

    Julie Gumm
    2 Sep 2014 | 6:13 am
    Gallup has just published early findings from their “World Poll.”  They are literally conducting a ten-year poll of what the entire world is thinking (160 countries). Here’s a snippet from their main discovery: “What the whole world wants is a good job. That is one of the single biggest discoveries Gallup has ever made. It is as simple and as straightforward an explanation of the data as we can give. If you and I were walking down the street in Khartoum, Tehran, Berlin, Lima, Los Angeles, Baghdad, Kolkata, or Istanbul, we would discover that on most days the single…
 
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  • Secrets by Anonymous Guest Author

    The Lost Daughters
    21 Dec 2014 | 5:00 am
    Submitted by: Anonymous Guest AuthorI’m writing this as an anonymous guest post for several reasons. First, I believe this would really hurt the people who love me and think they know me, including my parents and husband. Second, I believe that I would be judged harshly and I don’t have the energy to deal with that. Third, I don’t want to alarm anyone. I’m a model of citizenship, success, and happiness. I have a rich marriage, beautiful children, and a fulfilling career in an industry that I feel really makes a difference in the world. I am highly educated and meet every benchmark of…
  • Guest Post: A Korean Adoptee's Experience, by May Smith/Kim Chae Won

    Liberty
    16 Dec 2014 | 7:00 am
    "The only reason your real parents gave you away is because they didn't love you!" Words like acid spilled from my bully's mouth on the playground. He was a year older, a second grader, and impossibly large to the first grade version of me. I can only assume, many years later, that he singled me out since I was, as far as I can remember, the sole Asian student in my private, Catholic elementary school. As an adult looking back, I can't even begin to comprehend how a seven- or eight-year-old could know to say something so hurtful and mean. Perhaps he didn't fully understand the weight of his…
  • NPR Almost Gets it Right When Covering Adoption in 2014

    Julie Stromberg
    15 Dec 2014 | 1:00 pm
    As a journalist who has a passion for news and human interest stories, I have long been a listener of NPR’s programming efforts. I have a two-hour daily commute and NPR often makes it feel as though I have a friendly companion riding shotgun. As with all relationships, however, there are sometimes bumps in the road.I am quite pleased that the interview NPR conducted with Chad Goller-Sojourner was selected as a favorite of the year by editor Jordana Hochman and producer Chris Benderev. The segment is extremely insightful. Goller-Sojourner is a friend and his perspective is…
  • Christmas, Both a Blessing and a Curse

    Jenn
    14 Dec 2014 | 9:00 pm
    Oh Christmas Tree!I love Christmas.  It's one of my favorite times of the year.  I love the sights, the sounds, the smells, pretty much everything.  My house has been decorated since before Thanksgiving (oh the horror!) and I've been cheerfully waltzing around enjoying every minute of the season that will come to a screeching halt December 26th and then we're just in "Winter" (someone please remind me why I don't live in a warmer climate?).Once Christmas is over however, I tend to get the blues.  I came home with my parents at the beginning of January.  It's a painful…
  • Social and Biologial Heritage

    Elle
    12 Dec 2014 | 9:00 pm
    Small note and warning this post may come across as more pro adoption friendly, which might be true judge for yourself but please no negative comments or remarks about it. If you have been a regular follower of my posts or a reader of LD then you should know my viewpoint of this matter. As an adult adoptee, I recall many situations when I was reminded of my different ethnic heritage-my biolgical roots. Sometimes, the strangest things can act as a trigger, but I might disappoint you now this post will not deal with subject of biological roots (which obviously is something I don't share…
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  • What does it mean to be adopted to a post racial world?

    girl4708
    6 Dec 2014 | 12:22 pm
    Like many people here in America, currently in racial turmoil over grand jury decisions not to indict police officers who have killed unarmed black men, I shared this image on facebook.  A few days later, articles appeared berating the photo’s manipulation and message.  Clearly, other people think harder than I do before sharing. The first […]
  • “Coming Out” As Adopted

    Snow Leopard
    27 Sep 2014 | 6:39 pm
    The metaphor of “coming out” has been used elsewhere as a way to describe the experience of disclosing one’s status as adopted. What do you think about how this metaphor illuminates and distorts being open about one’s adoption experience?
  • Ok…does anyone know what’s going on in India?

    Mark Diebel
    21 Aug 2014 | 12:43 pm
    I wrote an article (published) that I’ve posted on Academia dot edu called “Human Nature and Truthfulness in Adoption and Donor Conception Practice”. The article has received 49 hits in the last 30 days from Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata, Kumar, Gurgaon, Suri, Mumbai, Vijayawada, etc. The search terms when identified are something like “to be truthful is […]
  • How do you handle privacy issues?

    Daniel Ibn Zayd
    18 Aug 2014 | 10:32 pm
    A question from a fellow adoptee: My question for other adoptees is, what have your experiences been as far as “coming out” as adopted is concerned? For instance, I am an adoptee completely estranged from my parents for six years, but a lot of my friends and coworkers did not know anything about my family […]
  • Changing the facts of adoption like birthdate

    Lucy Sheen aka 4gottenadoptee
    13 Aug 2014 | 11:31 pm
    Originally posted on Lucy Sheen actor writer filmmaker adoptee:Changing a child’s birth date That’s the title of for a thread on a recent adoption forum site. Yes, you read correctly the subject of discussion on an adoption thread. The family in question had apparently adopted a boy who had been abandoned. So the actual…
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    Unsigned Masterpiece

  • The Stones of December

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    9 Dec 2014 | 10:35 am
    As soon as I thought of a turquoise a memory flashed into my mind. It was of a ring that my grandfather used to wear, a small ring and it too had a turquoise ... My grandfather, like my son, was born in December.
  • Letter to an Adoption Ministry

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    24 Nov 2014 | 4:38 am
    Originally posted on orphanedheart:I saw a post recently on a forum that disturbed me.  There was a quote from a Christian about his take on the purpose of adoption. People who read his quote were ruffled…they were perturbed, and they bashed G-d.  It was hard to hear as a Christian person. I felt led…
  • Lest we forget …

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    11 Nov 2014 | 4:00 am
    They, too, had had Canadian soldiers billeted at their house during the war.
  • In search of self…

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    1 Oct 2014 | 9:47 am
    A Vermont Man is riding his bike to meet his family in Minnesota.  Read all about it here. on his blog called Ridinghometofindme.Filed under: Adoption, Adoption reunion, Cycling Tagged: Matthew Reid, Tim Howard
  • The truth shall also set you free…

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    27 Aug 2014 | 2:19 am
    A great post from Lost Daughters on the choppy waters of adoption reunion. If You Love Something, Let It Go Free And this feels like the companion piece to the Lost Daughters post.  From The Adopted Ones: Good Grief – This Gets So Tiring. I am adding another post to this list a day after […]
 
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  • Adoption Nuggets (25): Dipping Into Metaphorical Theology (7)

    Tim J R Trumper
    19 Dec 2014 | 8:42 am
    Fundamental Question #2: Is Paul’s Language of Adoption to Be Taken Literally or Metaphorically? (Continued)Since, to my knowledge, there is no source to which we may go to compare in full the arguments for the naive- and critical-realist readings of Paul on adoption, we have begun to identify the respective cases which may be made in favor of their literal and metaphorical approaches.The naive-realist could, I’ve posited, defend the  literal reading on four grounds:1. Paul’s view in Ephesians 3:14 that “every family in heaven and on earth is named” from the…
  • Together We Can Help Orphans Now

    Dan Cruver
    17 Dec 2014 | 4:43 pm
    Yes, the orphan crisis is complicated, but there are simple steps to move us toward attainable solutions. When we think of the world-wide orphan crisis, one way to motivate ourselves to action is recognizing there really are simple solutions!Believe it or not, we are already closer to solutions that will help orphaned and vulnerable children than we might have thought. Don’t be paralyzed by the complexity of the crisis. Be energized by simple solutions each of us can take. Each person, each church, each organization, and even each of our children can make a real difference.How…
  • Eulogy for Scott Crawford’s Father

    Dan Cruver
    2 Dec 2014 | 5:51 am
    Scott Crawford, longtime T4A volunteer staff member, lost his father last week to a long battle with cancer. In honor of Scott’s father, I wanted to share the beautiful eulogy that Scott wrote for his dad.A eulogy by son, Scott CrawfordA husband. A father. A son. A brother. A friend. A soldier.He stayed true to his wife and best friend for nearly 50 years. A covenant “to have and to hold, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health” breached only by his passing over into the presence of the one true King…that which we celebrate today.He parented 3…
  • Calling for an Adoption Paradigm Shift (not paradigm change)

    Dan Cruver
    21 Nov 2014 | 12:51 pm
    Imagine how a child in an orphanage would feel if she were adopted reunited with her impoverished mother (now economically stable) instead of placed in a new family…Note: Theologically, adoption is both (1) placement in the family of God and (2) reconciliation and reunification. We’re not looking for a complete paradigm change away from child placement but a shift to include and stress reconciliation and reunification. This is not a new position for Together for Adoption (see this 2010 post). It’s not either/or but both/and. We believe making this shift to include reconciliation…
  • Free Audio for Dr. Elizabeth Bartholet’s 3 T4A Talks

    Dan Cruver
    12 Nov 2014 | 7:59 am
    *Click the image below to find the audio and notes from Dr. Elizabeth Bartholet’s three conference talks.
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    Cheese Curds and Kimchi-Our international adoption story

  • Single motherhood in Korea, KUMFA holiday gift drive

    8 Dec 2014 | 10:30 am
    Mission complete! We just filled Korean Unwed Mothers Families’ Association last requested donation for a single mother and her five-year-old daughter in Korea. I can't tell you how happy that makes me! This program advocates for the rights of unwed pregnant women and unwed mothers in Korea. It was started by single mothers themselves!The majority of children placed for adoption from South Korea are from single mothers. Think back to the taboo of unwed childbirth back in the 1950s in the USA. There's that type of stigma (though I think it's much worse) that still exists in Korea today.This…
  • Sources for Korean Christmas Ornaments

    1 Dec 2014 | 1:24 pm
    Our 2014 family ornament from HERE.Christmas is right around the corner! I'm trying not to panic! I'm using too many exclamations!We aren't big-fuss holiday folks. Maybe that's because it's been just the two of us for most of our 20+ Christmas celebrations together. But I LOVE decorating the tree. We have boxes of ornaments, most of which were given to us as children. We ooh and ahh as the memories come back. Those ornaments are like tiny time capsules. The special ones from Iran given to The Man by his Aunt Shirley. The salt dough gingerbread man from my childhood who has survived for 40…
  • National Adoption Awareness month: it's complicated

    17 Nov 2014 | 9:59 pm
    Here we are, about smack in the middle of National Adoption Awareness month. If you are not in the adoption world, you might not be aware that it's also a time when there can be heated debates between different parties involved in adoption who use this time to air opposing perspectives.Before we were an adoptive family, I could not have dreamed there could be so many opinions on adoption. You either get adoption, or you don't, right?But as with any issue, there are a myriad of opinions about this subject. Adoption is....complicated. You have your "adoption is child abuse" folks. Countered by…
  • Asian and multicultural dolls for kids

    3 Nov 2014 | 8:15 pm
    Hi all.Just a quick note. I recently learned about this great company called Pattycake Doll Company, that specializes in dolls that aren't...mainstream.You know, boy dolls. Asian dolls. Multicultural dolls.I haven't purchased from this company so I can't vouch for the quality. But I know that hunting down dolls of color can be a challenge.  In our house we only have one doll set, the Plan Toy Doll House Asian Family. I think it's important to have dolls that reflect a variety of faces and cultures, but our boys tend to prefer animals at this point.Here's the link to Pattycake's Asian…
  • Big Brother is 4!

    11 Oct 2014 | 3:19 pm
    (Finally getting around to posting this....Little Man turned 4 in July!)Dear Little Man, The kids were all gathered around party table as I put the candles into the chocolate cupcake topped with purple frosting.One.Two.Three.As I prepared to light the candles, The Man says, "you ARE going to put one more on, right". Ack! I still couldn't get it into my brain. You are 4 now!Four years old!생일 축하합니다!  We filled the hallway with balloons again this year, so you would wake up and know it was your special day. We were going to put them in your bedroom this year instead of the…
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  • 10 Simple Gift Ideas For Teens In Foster Care

    19 Dec 2014 | 6:25 am
    When I was in foster care I was lucky enough to live in group home where I was able to make a Christmas list. Our group home was good at finding donations to make it possible for us to receive some nice things. We also live in a community that is very giving with their donations for those less fortunate. I never really knew what to put on my Christmas list. I wasn’t used to asking people for things, not from my family and especially not from “strangers”. Since I hadn’t known my foster parents long, they didn’t know what to get me. It’s hard to buy for teenagers, especially…
  • You Know they Are Judging You

    29 Nov 2014 | 11:49 am
     Sometimes in foster care situations you will feel as people just don’t understand. That can be said of many things in life, but if you’re involved with this lifestyle then you have an idea of what I’m talking about. I’m not talking about one certain thing or one certain side of it. Whether you’re a foster kid or a foster parent there’s going to be things you go through, things you have to do, that most people that haven’t been in the situation just wouldn’t understand. As both a foster kid and a kinship parent I have been judged. Sometimes it was justified, but often…
  • Getting That First Job

    3 Jul 2014 | 7:09 pm
     One of the difficult things about being a foster kid is seeing the kids around you have things that you may not have or even have the opportunity to get. It could be a variety of things from cool clothes, new shoes, the latest video game or even having a pet. Some of it may have to do with the rules of where you’re staying or you don’t have parents to buy that stuff. I recognized early on that if I wanted those things then I had to go and get them for myself. I realized really quickly that I was going to have to work harder than most of my peers to get some of the things they had…
  • Getting A Drivers License As A Foster Kid

    17 Apr 2014 | 10:36 pm
      To many kids turning 16 is one of the most exciting days of their lives. With turning 16 comes getting a drivers license. It's the license of freedom all most every teenager looks forward to getting. Hours of driving with family members to get enough hours under the belt finally paying off. Unfortunately for many foster kids it's harder to obtain the goal of getting that freedom. For many foster kids turning 16 does not mean getting a drivers license. When I was placed into foster care the summer I was getting ready to turn 16. I didn't have my permit at that that point. My…
  • Should Some Foster Kids Be "Grateful"?

    30 Mar 2014 | 11:17 pm
     After writing a post about things I disliked hearing in foster care, there were a lot of comments regarding foster children being told by their foster parents, that they should be thankful. This is something that has been said to me many times before, but not something I had a strong opinion on myself. There are many things said to you or about you as a foster kid so I found it best to have a tough skin. This was mainly in reference to the question: If a foster kid is not being "grateful" for what they have or not realizing that others have it worse, is it a bad thing to remind them…
 
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  • What my adoption cost me #validvoices #whoamI #adoption

    1 Jan 2015 | 2:55 am
    (posted on lost daughters blog on 2012 and on this blog in 2014) (i want to share again in 2015, edited a little)By Trace Hentz (author-blogger)Someone asked me what had adoption cost me personally. What a loaded question, I shot back in my email. I said I needed to think about it.Obviously, first of all, I didn't ask to be adopted!This situation was thrust on me by a damaged 22-year-old small-town Wisconsin girl who loved Chicago-clubbing and partying too much. She didn't want me after my 28-year-old father (also a big drinker) kicked her out. He moved back to his Illinois…
  • Third Mom: Honor adoptees by honoring their privacy

    17 Dec 2014 | 7:28 am
    Little Trace, age 3Third Mom: Honor adoptees by honoring their privacy: There has been a lot of talk this week in my online circles around a post by a popular adoptive parent blogger about her kids... Holidays should not be about schedules and stuff, they should be, as author Terra Trevor so beautifully says, about love.I add my two cents on adoptee privacy HERE...and it started a firestorm of comments! Trace visit: www.larahentz.wordpress.com
  • Adoption Survivor, not Victim #adoption #torture

    16 Dec 2014 | 5:42 am
    Note from Trace: Because of spam attacks, I am reposting this and deleting the original. Can I win the war with spambots? I guess I will try by deleting the old posts and win that way.Friday, July 8, 2011 Von Coates interviewed me about my adoptee and my writing experience in my memoir ONE SMALL SACRIFICE, published in 2009 - I wanted to share an excerpt of this interview:VON:  In your life was there a pivotal event that changed you from being a victim of adoption to a survivor?Trace, 1st gradeTrace: That is a great question because lots of people won’t recognize there is a definite…
  • Siksika First Nation first band to kick provincial child protection workers off their territory

    15 Dec 2014 | 3:35 pm
    'A lost tribe': Child welfare system accused of repeating residential school history, sapping Aboriginal kids from their homesAdrian Humphreys | December 15, 2014 (Leah Hennel / Postmedia News)  Homes on the Siksika Nation Reserve in Alberta on pictured in 2009. In 1973, the Siksika First Nation, east of Calgary, became the first band to kick provincial child protection workers off their territory and start their own agency. Elders from the Wabaseemoong First Nation in north-western Ontario remember the bus that drove around their reserve picking up children and shuttling them…
  • Spammers Besiege this Blog

    15 Dec 2014 | 9:28 am
    By Trace HentzI'm having to remove some of the posts that are being heavily attacked by spam. If you look at the right sidebar, you may notice the story about the Taylorville adoptee in Illinois has been removed. I hope you had read it prior to now. It was read by over 1,000 people but has been hit daily by spammers.Sadly, I am going to have to remove more posts with the highest readers since they are generating spam daily.This siege is annoying. Since the internet is monitored heavily by spambots, this blog is popular and has a big audience and is getting more hits.So read the posts now.
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    Infant Adoption Guide

  • How to make a great adoption profile video (and do it in 5 simple steps)

    Tim Elder
    15 Dec 2014 | 3:49 pm
    Have you heard of adoption profile videos? In my experience, videos are the secret ingredient for reaching out and connecting with a potential birthmother. Videos are easier than ever to create, edit, share, and especially watch – on the internet from your phone, tablet, or computer. This means expectant mothers who are considering adoption can learn […]
  • 4 Ways to organize your adoption journey

    Tim Elder
    20 Nov 2014 | 7:36 am
    Are you a natural organizer? Do you regularly have to-do lists, checklists and spreadsheets to help you get things done? If you are a fabulous organizer or not, when navigating the rough waters of your adoption journey, it can get overwhelming if you don’t have some way to keep your “to-do” list on track. I […]
  • IAG 028 – New York adoption law with attorney Anthony Zurica

    Tim Elder
    13 Nov 2014 | 11:45 am
    “Adopted children have become some of the most notable personalities to ever walk the planet. John Lennon, Marilyn Monroe, Bill Clinton, Nelson Mandela, and of course Superman himself, were all adopted.” Anthony Zurica Every hopeful adoptive family needs an adoption attorney. Every state has their own set of adoption laws. It gets confusing to know […]
  • Celebrate National Adoption Month during November!

    Tim Elder
    7 Nov 2014 | 9:04 am
    That’s right! November is National Adoption Month. What does that mean? It is a time to celebrate and create awareness for adoption in the U.S. National Adoption Month started in 1995. Since then, every November a Presidential Proclamation launches activities and celebrations to help build awareness of adoption throughout the nation. Thousands of community organizations […]
  • 5 Tips For Making Your Adoption Portfolio/Profile Unique

    Tim Elder
    30 Oct 2014 | 8:53 pm
    My wife and I have just finished creating our profile for our 3rd adoption – and it doesn’t seem to get any easier. I’ve done a lot of research about profiles. I really value Madeleine Melcher’s opinion and expertise about how to create the best and most unique profile. She literally wrote the book on […]
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    America Adopts

  • 217+ Things to Do While You’re Waiting To Adopt

    Lawrence
    16 Dec 2014 | 7:00 am
    What a difference a day makes. The other day one of our waiting parents asked me to upgrade their profile package because they wanted more exposure. I made the change and sent them a message letting them know the work had been done. When I didn’t hear back from them, I sent them a second email to make sure they got the message. “We did receive the link,” they wrote earlier this week. “However we will not need to renew.  We were contacted by our agency that a birthmother chose us to be parents and the child was born yesterday and he will go home with us tomorrow.
  • 12 Things Waiting Parents Want Their Family And Friends To Know About The Holidays

    Lawrence
    9 Dec 2014 | 8:16 am
    1. This is a difficult time for us. The holidays are a time to celebrate with family and friends. But while everyone else looks like they’re having a great time, we feel sad and frustrated because we don’t have a child to share them with. Plus, many people don’t understand what we’re going through, which makes it even harder to explain. 2. Getting together can makes us feel awkward. Maybe it’s because we’re the eldest child and feel that we should have been the first to become a parent. Or maybe it’s because we’re the only child in the family who…
  • Open Adoption: What Those In The Know Want You To Know

    Lawrence
    4 Dec 2014 | 7:00 am
    What was your biggest fear about open adoption? What was the spark that initially helped you to create a connection with your child’s birthmother or adoptive parents? How did you and your child’s birthmother or adoptive parents decide how much openness you wanted to have in your relationship? Do you believe an open adoption match is a stroke of luck, meant to be, or something else entirely? These are just a few of the questions we asked our Facebook fans as part of our annual “30 Days 30 Questions” series during Adoption Awareness Month in November. Below you can find a…
  • “Open Adoption Is…” 30 Quotes From Our Facebook Community

    Lawrence
    2 Dec 2014 | 6:00 am
    “Open adoption is…” what exactly? Since last month was National Adoption Awareness Month, we wanted to find out. Just before the month kicked off, we asked our Facebook community to complete the phrase “Open Adoption is…” We got some great responses, from all members of the adoption triad — adoptive parents, birthmothers and adoptees. Each day we posted a different one on our Facebook page, where we received even more responses. Just in case you missed them, here they are — all 30 original quotes in one place. Which one is your favorite?
  • You Know You’re An Adoptive Parent In An Open Adoption When…

    Lawrence
    25 Nov 2014 | 7:00 am
    1. You get a kick out of people telling you that your child looks just like you even though you know she doesn’t. 2. The woman you once feared more than anyone else in the world isn’t only your new best friend, she’s the first person you think of when your child reaches a milestone. 3. While all the other mothers get asked about the cost of their baby stroller, you get asked about the cost of your baby, 4. You discover that Jamie Lee Curtis is a darned good writer, and maybe even a better writer than she is an actress. 5. You feel like you’ve joined this exclusive club…
 
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    Canada Adopts

  • Waiting To Adopt? The One Question I Guarantee You’ll Be Asked This Week

    Lawrence
    18 Dec 2014 | 2:00 am
    I’ve never been very good at making predictions. When it comes to foreseeing the future, I usually leave that for others to figure out. But if you’re waiting to adopt, I can promise you that this week somewhere, some day, someone will ask you THE question that every waiting parent fears, and eventually hears, over the holidays, if it hasn’t happened already: “How many children do you have?” It could happen when you’re dropping in at a neighbor’s party. Or at a friend’s. Or at a family dinner. But trust me, it will happen. For most people,…
  • When The Holidays Arrive, But The Baby Doesn’t: Tips For Waiting Parents

    Lawrence
    11 Dec 2014 | 1:07 am
    The holidays are almost here. But while other people are excited and looking forward to their arrival with breathless anticipation, you’re dreading them and looking back. To this time last year, to be exact. Remember how powerless you felt as you watched others celebrate the season with their children? Remember how you felt like you were missing out on something special? That everyone else was having a great time except you? And remember how you vowed to never go through another holiday season childless and promised you would be a parent by now? But yet, here you are, one year…
  • What Is Adoption? 30 Different Ways To Look At It

    Lawrence
    4 Dec 2014 | 4:19 am
    It’s hard to explain what adoption is to people who have never experienced it. And it’s equally hard to explain it to those who have. No matter who you speak to, whether it be an adoptive parent, a family hoping to adopt, a birthparent or an adoptee, everyone has a different way of looking at it. If you visited our Facebook page last month, you’ll know exactly what I mean. To mark National Adoption Awareness Month, we asked our Fans to complete the phrase “Adoption is…” And they did. Did they ever. The results were so awesome that we posted a…
  • Our Facebook Community Shares Its Adoption Fears, Hopes And Dreams

    Lawrence
    2 Dec 2014 | 12:00 am
    Everyone’s adoption experience is different. And so last month, as we do every year during National Adoption Month as part a series called “30 Days 30 Questions,” we wanted to find out what kind of experience you’ve had. Every day for 30 days we posted a different question on our Facebook page that tapped into your innermost thoughts and feelings. What do you think is the biggest misconceptions about adoption? What was your biggest fear? What was the turning point in your journey? How has adoption changed your life and the way that you look at the world? We got a…
  • 5 Tips To Optimize Your Online Adoption Profile

    Lawrence
    27 Nov 2014 | 2:00 am
    What’s the secret to creating a successful online adoption profile? What are the differences between an online adoption profile and a printed adoption profile? Do online adoption profiles have certain unique characteristics that set them apart from other types of adoption profiles? And if so, how can you optimize yours so that a prospective birthmom notices it when she’s online? These are just a few of the questions that hopeful parents ask when they’re creating an adoption outreach campaign for the web. Before I get to the answers, we should look at how an online profile…
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