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    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    23 Nov 2014 | 4:31 pm
    We get to the place where Adoption by Gentle Care is whining to the court to shut off the internet based on a concocted story peppered with false statements and more mistruths. So you are lying to prevent others from knowing that you are lying? Their logic, or lack of, just kills me. If they just stopped being "butts" as my kids would say, then I wouldn't have to take about them being such butts. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Just Sitting with It; Not Fighting, Not Struggling, Not Suffering

    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth
    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    13 Nov 2014 | 10:05 am
    This is my 27th year post relinquishment, so really, I know what to expect. I know what this feels like. I once wrote about this, comparing it to an old shroud, a mourning veil, a tired worn, threadbare sweater that I must wear until it falls off my bones. Hello darkness, my old friend. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Adoptionland: Brutal essays by adult adoptees expose the truth of intercountry adoption

    [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum
    16 Nov 2014 | 9:24 am
    The Vance Twins--Jenette on left and Janine With news that Vietnam is once again going to allow their children to be adopted out of country, reading a collection of essays by people who were uprooted and transplanted into new cultures is ice water on all those squishy ideals of what intercountry (or international adoption) does. The writers whose essays come together in Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists portray the dislocation as wrenching and brutal, an experience that leaves a scar neither time nor distance can temper.Though I am no fan of adoption in general I recognize that…
  • Reblogged: An Adoptee's Perspective: 15 Things Transracially Adoptive Parents Need to Know

    All In The Family Of Adoption
    Kellie C
    26 Nov 2014 | 4:00 pm
    1.  Race and culture matter.  My race and culture of origin are integral to my identity and will always be a part of me.  Regardless of how much society claims to be colorblind, I will always be characterized and labeled by the color of my skin.  Because I do not look like you, it is important for you to show me - through your words and actions - that being different is okay...Read more at Diary of a Not-So-Angry Asian Adoptee...#flipthescript for #NAAM2014Also visit this list of blogs written by adoptees to learn more about their experience.
  • Without A Map

    Therapy Is Expensive
    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    1 Nov 2014 | 8:55 pm
    There’s no roadmap for open adoption. We’re all just figuring it out as we go. But for spouses/partners/significant others of birth parents (and adoptees) the course is even less clear, which is why it’s all the more impressive that TeacherMan is such a freaking rock star this weekend. He met Kidlet and M a year ago on our turf. Then six months ago Kidlet came to visit us. However, this weekend we’re in their state, for their event, surrounded by their extended family. TeacherMan is taking it all in stride and being super attentive to any possible emotional needs I…
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    Musings of the Lame- Exposing Adoption Truth

  • Censoring the Truth and Issuing Lies

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    23 Nov 2014 | 4:31 pm
    We get to the place where Adoption by Gentle Care is whining to the court to shut off the internet based on a concocted story peppered with false statements and more mistruths. So you are lying to prevent others from knowing that you are lying? Their logic, or lack of, just kills me. If they just stopped being "butts" as my kids would say, then I wouldn't have to take about them being such butts. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Just Sitting with It; Not Fighting, Not Struggling, Not Suffering

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    13 Nov 2014 | 10:05 am
    This is my 27th year post relinquishment, so really, I know what to expect. I know what this feels like. I once wrote about this, comparing it to an old shroud, a mourning veil, a tired worn, threadbare sweater that I must wear until it falls off my bones. Hello darkness, my old friend. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Adoption by Gentle Care; A History of Unethical Choices

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    12 Nov 2014 | 3:40 pm
    I personally am rather tired of having to explain to people that Carri and Camden's case is not an isolated incident, but rather only part and partial of a long history of poor choices made by a greedy and unethical agency who has made it their business model to use, and abuse or ignore when it suits them, the current Ohio adoption laws to their personal advantage. If we are not so easily able to dismiss "just that one experience," then I think it is clear that for Adoption by Gentle Care,... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Adoption by Gentle Care Wins

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    11 Nov 2014 | 12:11 pm
    The Pound Pup Legacy Annual Demons of Adoption Award Upon a successful 2nd nomination and upon election within the Adoption community for rightfully pointed out the wrongdoings and condemned the practices Pound Pup Legacy hereby thus denounces the dubious honor of receiving the Eighth Annual Demons of Adoption Award in 2014 to: Adoption by Gentle Care of Columbus, Ohio Who shall now receive the most critical recognition in Adoption including the scorn, disgust, and public flogging... Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
  • Talking with Darrick Rizzo of The Open Adoption about National Adoption Month

    Claudia Corrigan DArcy
    11 Nov 2014 | 9:40 am
    Fantastic Adoption Interviews from theOpenAdoption.tv. Birth father and author Darrick Rizzo captures many attendees of the Adoption Initiative conference talking about Adoption for NAAM. Including me telling my Gotcha story and the hell the month of November. read more... → Come on by to Musings of the Lame to read the rest of this post. Come on, you know you want to!
 
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  • #flipthescript 3: Who is Best Placed to Talk about the Experience of Adoption?

    Lori Lavender Luz
    26 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    See my last two #flipthescript posts for background on the phenomenon of the groundswell of adoptee voices emerging above the din during  National Adoption Awareness Month. Image: Tracy Hammond As we close out November, I’m turning this space over to adoptees. You may not agree with everything that is said in these #flipthescript posts. You […] The post #flipthescript 3: Who is Best Placed to Talk about the Experience of Adoption? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • #flipthescript 2: Whose Script? Whose Voice?

    Lori Lavender Luz
    23 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    See my last post, #flipthescript 1, for background on the phenomenon of the groundswell of adoptee voices emerging above the din during  National Adoption Awareness Month. Image: Tracy Hammond As we close out November, I’m turning this space over to adoptees. You may not agree with everything that is said in these #flipthescript posts. You […] The post #flipthescript 2: Whose Script? Whose Voice? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • #flipthescript 1: Why Are Adoptees Doing It?

    Lori Lavender Luz
    21 Nov 2014 | 5:00 am
    Have you seen the #flipthescript movement taking place during National Adoption Awareness Month? Conversations in Adoption World have historically been dominated by adoption professionals and adoptive parents. But increasingly since the 1970s, the voices of birth parents and of adult adoptees are being heard. Amanda H.L. Transue-Woolston of The Declassified Adoptee explains further via video […] The post #flipthescript 1: Why Are Adoptees Doing It? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • Dexter Digest

    Lori Lavender Luz
    10 Nov 2014 | 4:45 am
    I don’t post identifiable pix of my kids online, so I go a little bit crazy with our dog, Dexter. He’s having his 3rd birthday this month, and we’re closing in on a year since he’s been with us. I love this boy. Belly rubs are always good for a smile. #welltrainedhumans #dogsofintstagram A photo […] The post Dexter Digest appeared first on Lavender Luz.
  • What are the Benefits & Difficulties of Open Adoption?

    Lori Lavender Luz
    5 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    Why are adoption agencies suggesting or requiring open adoptions? What are the pluses and minuses of open adoptions? What might be the long-term effects of living in one? Rachel Garlinghouse, author of the new children’s book Black Girls Can, recently interviewed me on Adoption.net in anticipation of National Adoption Awareness Month. She asked some great […] The post What are the Benefits & Difficulties of Open Adoption? appeared first on Lavender Luz.
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    Therapy Is Expensive

  • Kat Nielsen, MSW
    24 Nov 2014 | 6:41 pm
    They’re killing our kids. Is there nothing to be done? Just screaming into a pillow as the tears fall. I’m not surprised not even a little. But I really didn’t want to be right. Not this time, not last time or the time before or the one that comes next. I don’t want to feel relief that my son looks white …but i do.
  • Without A Map

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    1 Nov 2014 | 8:55 pm
    There’s no roadmap for open adoption. We’re all just figuring it out as we go. But for spouses/partners/significant others of birth parents (and adoptees) the course is even less clear, which is why it’s all the more impressive that TeacherMan is such a freaking rock star this weekend. He met Kidlet and M a year ago on our turf. Then six months ago Kidlet came to visit us. However, this weekend we’re in their state, for their event, surrounded by their extended family. TeacherMan is taking it all in stride and being super attentive to any possible emotional needs I…
  • Sometimes It’s Hard

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    16 Oct 2014 | 8:17 pm
    Sometimes it’s hard being a Black* Chick married to a White Guy.  Being a six hour plane ride from my family and only a 45 minute from his makes it harder.  We spend a lot of time with them which only increases the amount of time I spend in soley white spaces.  White, conservative, Christian spaces. It takes a lot of energy to be the right kind of me for that. I always end the evening drained. I don’t say this to play the martyr. I LOVE my sister-in-law even if she was born in the 90s and I have to exclaim “WHY ARE YOU SO YOUNG” way too often when she doesn’t…
  • What’s This Really About?

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    13 Oct 2014 | 4:06 pm
    I ask myself as I crouch down on my sister in law’s porch. Trying to wipe away the tears that are coming way too fast for it to be about the lack of competence of such a trivial skill. Biting back accusations instead of hurling them at my husband is a step in the right direction, but why am I even thinking them? Is he happy I failed? Will he get joy from my embarrassment? Where is this coming from? What’s this really about? Dark thoughts swirl in my brain. I believe myself when I swear these types of thoughts don’t exist. They’ve been gone long enough it’s like…
  • Fight, Flight, or Freeze

    Kat Nielsen, MSW
    22 Aug 2014 | 6:25 am
    I sat in my therapist’s office crying. Heart racing. Feeling like I couldn’t breathe. I reminded myself that while I felt like I coudn’t breathe I was in fact breathing. I took some deep abdominal breaths. I heard her voice, but it wasn’t really registering. I froze. I just needed a few moments to center and ground myself. A few moments of silence to pull myself together. She kept talking. I’m not sure what she was really saying, but her tone grew increasingly frustrated and in turn frustrating. I had been trying to get myself together, to continue the session.
 
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  • Why You Should Think About a Sunroom for Your Next Renovation

    Ashley Roberts
    25 Nov 2014 | 8:54 am
    Don’t have enough space for entertaining guests? Planning to renovate and want to merge your outdoors with your indoors? Then a sunroom is perfect for you. A sunroom will give you space and light and the lifestyle change you have been looking for. Follow below for just a few reasons why you should consider adding a sunroom to your home. Perfect For Entertaining Sunrooms and entertaining go hand in hand. They are the perfect room to host your next party. Entertaining outside is wonderful, especially under a patio, but it can be uncomfortable when the weather turns bad. With a sunroom it…
  • 5 Tips for a Better Backyard

    Ashley Roberts
    24 Nov 2014 | 3:50 am
    Photo: © Depositphotos.com/Dhoxax Is your backyard a bit boring? What would you change about it? With so many people having their days packed with trying to juggle work and family life, the backyard is an area of the house that frequently ends up receiving more than its fair share of neglect. But it doesn’t have to be. It’s actually really easy to improve your backyard and turn it into a safe space the whole family can enjoy. 1. Grass Many unloved yards end up with grass that becomes patchy and reveals a lot of dirt underneath, especially during the summer months when the ground gets a…
  • How to Prepare Your Home for Active Toddlers

    Ashley Roberts
    23 Nov 2014 | 9:40 am
    It begins. Either you have children who are shortly about to become detrimentally energetic toddlers, or you, for whatever reason, are taking care of someone else’s toddlers, who are bound to be a bit manic in one way or another. Whatever the circumstances are, you are seeking advice on how to go about this. How does one alter their living arrangements so that they are suitable for a small child? What constitutes a child-friendly home? Here are a few important tips on how to prepare your household for active toddlers. Recognise Safety Hazards Now is the time to check your house for any…
  • Dining Room Decor Ideas

    Ashley Roberts
    22 Nov 2014 | 7:26 pm
    The dining room is one of the most important places in the house. It’s the place where families all sit down to enjoy some quality time together while enjoying a delicious meal, so it makes sense to ensure that it looks great. You may even want to throw dinner parties here, or better yet, serve Christmas dinner! Whatever your plans, your dining room should be impressive. If yours is a little boring lately, why not try these tips? Lighten Up with a Pattern Pattern in the dining room can add so much interest and fun. You can be as subtle or as brave as you like with it too. You could add a…
  • Advice On Turning Your Garden Into Something Amazing

    Ashley Roberts
    22 Nov 2014 | 12:57 am
    It is easy to assume that in order to turn your garden into something special you need lots of space. Actually if you are short on space then what you should do is be a bit more savvy with your design ideas and inspirations. There are lots of fun and exciting ideas that you can use to decorate your garden however you like. It is always worth looking online to see other people’s garden designs to get ideas and inspirations on how you can design your garden perfectly. Japanese Inspiration Taking ideas from Japanese culture can be a great way to create a lovely garden.  A lot of Japanese…
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  • Thankful

    Dawn
    27 Nov 2014 | 5:08 am
    This beautiful video was making the rounds a few years ago. This is something I am unlikely to ever see in person and I feel lucky that I get to see it here and I am thankful for all the beauty in the world, the seen and the unseen. For those of you celebrating, I hope you have a lovely time. For those of you facing hard times, may this day land easily. Murmuration from Islands & Rivers on Vimeo. The post Thankful appeared first on Building Family Counseling. Possibly related posts: Drinking in the morning sun Eat Happy dancing
  • Helping Kids with Anxiety

    Dawn
    26 Nov 2014 | 9:52 am
    This is Goldilocks. She’s having a tough time. This is the final post in the 3-part series about helping kids with anxiety. I reserve the right to blog more about it in the future because it’s a big topic and this is so general. Onward! To the helping! Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT is the counseling modality of choice for kids (and adults) with anxiety. Research on effective anxiety therapies tend to focus on these three areas: Understanding and addressing the physical response to anxiety Recognizing and challenging the thinking errors that perpetuate anxiety Using…
  • Child Anxiety Symptoms

    Dawn
    25 Nov 2014 | 7:53 am
    There isn’t one way to be anxious so when we look for child anxiety symptoms, we need to be aware that they will manifest differently in different kids. This is a very (very) broad overview of the kinds of anxiety disorders seen in kids. And remember, it goes from regular worry to a concerning disorder when the anxiety gets in the way of functioning. Ready? Ok. Most Common Anxiety Diagnoses Generalized Anxiety Disorder Kids with generalized anxiety have excessive worry across a variety of situations. They worry about missing the bus, about whether the kids at camp will like him, or…
  • Anxiety in Kids

    Dawn
    24 Nov 2014 | 8:19 am
    Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health diagnosis in kids; ten to twenty percent of all children will meet criteria for an anxiety disorder before the age of 18. But it’s hard for parents to figure out when worry is part of typical child development and when it’s a concern. Some anxiety in kids is normal. Anxiety can inspire children to do stuff like wash their hands and double-check their homework. Anxiety becomes an issue  when kids get stuck in it to the point where its getting in the way of their lives. For example, it’s fine if a child double-checks his…
  • It Bears Repeating

    Dawn
    12 Nov 2014 | 6:35 am
    One of the hardest thing for us parents to wrap our heads around is how often we have to repeat ourselves. “Shut the door.” “Pick up your shoes.” “No, you can’t have cookies for dinner.” “Hitting is against the rules in this house.” You’d think they’d figure it out after the 457th time we’ve said it and yet there we go, repeating ourselves over and over and over again. Argh! Frustrating! There’s a reason we have to turn into broken records; our kids are always growing and so they need to learn some things over and…
 
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  • Family Follows

    Suz Bednarz
    23 Nov 2014 | 10:38 am
    I wonder what he was thinking. Was it just curiosity or did he hope she might talk to him? Did he message her and introduce himself? If he did, did she respond? Did she rebuff him and give him the same explanation she has given me? She is not effected by her adoption, she has one family and he is not related to her? I won’t ask of course. I made an agreement with myself years ago that I will not broker those relationships. He is her cousin and he has a right to know her and reach out to her even if she has no desire to know him. She has a right to know him or not and any explanation she…
  • Internal Voices Part 2

    Suz Bednarz
    12 Nov 2014 | 12:26 pm
    Once again thank you to Jenna at Stop Drop and Blog for the prompt behind an earlier post and this one. The last one prompted (pun intended) good conversations with friends and family.   I committed to sharing with you my thoughts on the roots of these voices.   Feel free to once again share your own or add to the commentary. I will take these in the same order I posted them. Somehow that seems relevant to me. The ease of which I could retrieve the sound of that voice seems to equate to how loud it is heard inside me as well as how often I hear it. You are fat and this means you are ugly.
  • 28 Days Left

    Suz Bednarz
    10 Nov 2014 | 1:22 pm
    I am in the last month of my 99 Days of Freedom. More specifically, the time clock that is running on my Facebook hiatus will soon run out.  I am not entirely sure I will return. The more I have been away from it, the less I feel like I going back to regular use. In full disclosure, I have peeked in a few times but not by choice. It is amazing the degree to which people, organizations, etc. use Facebook for communication.  This alone has been an interesting observation. My stylist prefers to make hair appointments that way, hotels and restaurants I am considering for Thanksgiving…
  • Voices in My Head

    Suz Bednarz
    30 Oct 2014 | 9:24 am
    Jenna over at Stop, Drop and Blog had a great post about internal self-talk. I was struck by the honesty in her post as well as by the fact that many of her voices are so different from mine. This made me think about the root of those voices, how and why they vary. Generational? Jenna is younger than I am. Situational? Dispositional? And so on. (Yes, I spend a great deal of time pondering stuffs). I will share some of my own voices with you. I hear these daily. They usually start the minute I wake from sleep but often occur in my dreams as well. You are fat and this means you are ugly. You…
  • Serious Q: What if…

    Suz Bednarz
    26 Oct 2014 | 2:30 pm
    The question that was not really a question did not surprise me. I sensed the feeling, the confusion, and the angst surrounding it for years. Every time I spoke with her and got an update on her reunion it was there, hiding behind the uttered phrases, peeking out behind the “things are rough but I am lucky to have her in my life” word wall she had built. I recall one particular challenging phone conversation where she cried a mixture of deeply sad and tremendously angry tears.  Her words, confused and conflicting, indicated she was tired of reunited daughters’ treatment of her and her…
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  • The Legacy of In-Fighting in the Internet Age

    Mirah Riben
    21 Nov 2014 | 11:36 am
    I've written much about in-fighting in the adoption reform movement. It's not unique to adoptionland. In-fighting exists in all grassroots movements, in entertainment, sports, in academia, and in the business world.  Often, people on the same team with the same goals disagree about how to achieve those goals. The more passionate the issues, the more likely there will be differences of opinions.  And our issues are often very personal and emotionally charged. Disagreements are a part of life and likely there'd be little progress without a heated debate, now and then,…
  • HUFFINGTON POST

    Mirah Riben
    22 Oct 2014 | 9:43 am
    TO ALL MY FRIEND,S FANS AND FOLLOWERS....PLEASE FOLLOW ME AT http://HuffingtonPost.com/Mirah-RibenI will likely still come here to VENT in ways that would be inappropriate for a more formal and more public venue....But PLEASE do follow my Huff Posts because they are IMPORTANT issues that will benefit greatly from LIKES, SHARES and comments.
  • Private Adoption: White Knights or Flesh Peddlers

    Mirah Riben
    16 Oct 2014 | 7:59 pm
    In the late 1980s Geraldo Rivera had a talk show. It was shortly after the world was rocked by the Joel Steinberg trial for the death of his adopted daughter Lisa. See all four short segments of the show to see Aaaron Britvan and Bill Pierece square off on private adoption. Part I of the four-part video of the program introduces the audience to Rebekah Dulik, a minor who was lured out-of-state and coached no to tell her parents where she was or that she was pregnant and having her child adopted.  Judi Cochran of Children's Right of PA addresses Rebekah's…
  • How I Came to Meet Joan Rivers

    Mirah Riben
    10 Oct 2014 | 10:08 pm
    As the nation mourned of the death of the beloved comic icon, I recalled my meeting with Joan Rivers when I was guest on her short-lived a daytime talk show, in March 1990.But the story of how that came about began in 1987 with a horrific tragedy that garnered headlines of a “house of horrors” and a six year old girl called Lisa, who died after years of abuse. In the dimly lit, filthy Greenwhich Village home of attorney Joel Steinberg and Hedda Nussbaum where Lisa had endured unspeakable abuses, police discovered a toddler boy tethered to a table leg in soiled diapers with a bottle of…
  • The Tangled Web of Entitlement, Resentment and Justification

    Mirah Riben
    27 Sep 2014 | 12:30 pm
    Entitlement is often spoken and written and blogged about in the adoption community. We know it fuels adoptions. But...do we recognize how deeply it motivates through justification.I was watching a re-run of an old crime show on TV. The detective on a murder case commented on how feelings of entitlement  -  I deserve it (whatever "it" is) - especially when combined with feeling it unfair that others have what you feel entitled to, can lead to justifying most anything. The "it" could be a promotion, a husband or wife, wealth, fame... or a…
 
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  • Adoption By Gentle Care and my good friend Claudia D'Arcy- (oh boy!)

    Mary Provance-garvens
    23 Nov 2014 | 4:45 pm
    So you all should read this, it's quite interesting. But you know, the most interesting thing about it? That they think intimidation and scare tactics can do anything to make any of us who are blogging this fiasco stop. Kudos Claudia, they really don't like you telling the truth at all do they?http://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/censoring-the-truth-and-issuing-lies/
  • Demons of Adoption 2014- Adoption By Gentle Care Wins in A Landslide!

    Mary Provance-garvens
    11 Nov 2014 | 1:37 pm
     "This year's recipient of the Demons of Adoption Award is a good example of being among the worst in an industry that thrives on bad practices." At the time, little attention was given to serious issues like abuse in adoptive families child trafficking coerced relinquishmentand re-homing., while at the same time, Members of Congress were busy praising adoption attorney's and executive directors of adoption agencies, by honoring them a Congressional award.Something was very wrong with this picture. Abuse in adoptive families and re-homing often are the result of…
  • Breaking Amish Part Deux

    Mary Provance-garvens
    10 Nov 2014 | 9:11 pm
    So a little birdie whispered in my ear that Adoption by Gentle Care may have placed Camden with an Amish family- hmm wonder why that is? Well you can go here= Breaking Amish  and of course here Ohio Adoption AgencyIsn't that just a corker? Place a child with a family who has no access to televison, the internet, email, or any social media, in the hopes of doing what? Oh wait, I get it! Do you?
  • Are you outraged yet? Has Adoption By Gentle Care sent Baby Cam to a fourth home?

    Mary Provance-garvens
    5 Nov 2014 | 10:28 pm
    If you aren't outraged, you should be- four homes and endless months in foster care? What the hell is Adoption By Gentle Care thinking? They are so worried about the "sanctity" of adoption- ahem NO THEY ARE NOT! And they are anything but GENTLE!Please click the link and read all about this outrageous behavior!Ohio Adoption Agency 
  • In the Matter of Camden Stearns- Another, Adoption by Gentle Care Fiasco

    Mary Provance-garvens
    4 Nov 2014 | 12:12 pm
    Having been nominated for The Demon in Adoptions award for a SECOND TIME, AGC has to be running scared. Their first nomination was in the case of Thaddeus Wyrembeck aka Grayson Vaughn. That was in 2011- from all accounts, Thaddeus and his family are doing very well. Nothing that Robin Sax or the Vaughn's attorney's did, stopped young Thaddeus from being reunited with his father and family. They tried very hard though didn't they? In the case of Camden, there are no PR people involved as there were in The Baby Veronica case, (or as is the case with Sonya McCaul, another horrible fiasco, though…
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    25 Nov 2014 | 5:01 am
    Finding Vintage DisneyanaVintage Disneyana has become a personal passion of mine.  I’ve been searching for it for years now.  I attend art auctions regularly, but usually only find vintage Disneyana at a small percentage of them.Jual Baju KoreaI found a darling 1938 Knickerbocker Mickey Mouse dressed in a Santa suit at an art auction a few years ago.  This was an extraordinary vintage Disneyana find.  There was some very fine crazing to the face, but no flakes in the paint.I did some research after the art auction and it turns out that my vintage Disneyana has quite a…
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    [Birth Mother] First Mother Forum

  • Thanksgiving: Finding something to be thankful for when we're feeling low

    25 Nov 2014 | 9:03 am
    Lorraine,surrounded by brother, sister-in-law, nieces and husband, T'giving  2014It's that time of the year again when all the family that we miss comes leaping out of the background to appear front and center in our hearts and minds. It can't be helped. While we are trying to focus on what we are truly thankful for, we find ourselves thinking about what and who is missing.I'm no different. This year my brother and his wife are driving from Michigan for Thanksgiving. They are picking up my two nieces in Manhattan (one in art school there, the other just back from Thailand) andnephew…
  • The Vance Twins: Raising awareness about adoption realities

    22 Nov 2014 | 2:41 pm
    LorraineSpeaking up and speaking out about a controversial issue is always scary the first time. Adoption as we know it today has become highly controversial, as adult adoptees and first mothers have opened up about the painful effects of adoption, whether they are the ones who lost a child to be adopted, or the child who grew up in a family not her original one. Yet at the same time, with more people--straight couples, gays couples, single people--desiring to adopt, a several billion dollar industry world wide has grown up to serve that market.Those who want to adopt do not want to…
  • Adoptionland: Brutal essays by adult adoptees expose the truth of intercountry adoption

    16 Nov 2014 | 9:24 am
    The Vance Twins--Jenette on left and Janine With news that Vietnam is once again going to allow their children to be adopted out of country, reading a collection of essays by people who were uprooted and transplanted into new cultures is ice water on all those squishy ideals of what intercountry (or international adoption) does. The writers whose essays come together in Adoptionland: From Orphans to Activists portray the dislocation as wrenching and brutal, an experience that leaves a scar neither time nor distance can temper.Though I am no fan of adoption in general I recognize that…
  • Adoption in the news: Let the media know our side of the story

    12 Nov 2014 | 9:49 am
    Jane"'We strongly believe every child belongs to a family,'" Amy Gilson of Dallas, Oregon told the reporter for the Salem Statesman-Journal "Helping Hands", 11/8/14). Amy and her husband Tom are raising funds to adopt a seven-month-old boy from Ethiopia, inspired by the Biblical commandment "to look after widows and orphans in their distress." (James 1:27.) They have put up $27,000 towards the $35,000 they will need to bring little "Callen James" to their home. They have taken second jobs to raise money and are soliciting donations.I fired off a letter to the S-J pointing out corruption was…
  • Review: Reunion Worth the Wait

    5 Nov 2014 | 9:42 am
    Minka, her daughter, and granddaughterNo matter why they lost their baby to adoption, an affair with a married man, teen lovers, a fling with a charming cad at a carnival in Ireland, mothers stories tell of the same inconsolable grief. And so it is with Minka Disbrow, a South Dakota farm girl, the daughter of Dutch immigrants, who was raped and became pregnant at age 16.Minka's story as told by her granddaughter, Cathy LaGrow with Cinda Coloma in The Waiting, begins in 1928 when Minka joins her friends for a picnic and takes a walk around a nearby lake with a friend. Away from the othergirls,…
 
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    The Declassified Adoptee

  • VIDEO National Adoption Month? The Lost Daughters #flipthescript

    Amanda
    7 Nov 2014 | 9:33 am
    Headed by @mothermade, Lost Daughters is flipping the script with this awesome round table style video by Bryan Tucker. Click here for the full length version and remember to share with the tags #NationalAdoptionMonth and #flipthescript.Being grateful for my adoptive family & questioning the ethics of modern adoption practices are not mutually exclusive. #FliptheScript #NAM— Mila (@yoonsblur) November 3, 2014
  • PA, Adoptee Rights, and an Amended Bill--What now?

    Amanda
    17 Sep 2014 | 5:07 pm
    Photo (c) Julie StrombergOn Tuesday, September 16, 2014, the Pennsylvania Senate Aging and Youth Committee held a voting hearing for HB 162.  As drafted, HB 162 would restore the right of PA-born adult adoptees, nineteen years or older, to access a copy of their original birth certificate (OBC) with the same regard under the law enjoyed by every other PA-born citizen.When a child is adopted in the U.S., a amended birth record replaces their OBC that lists their adoptive parents as their biological parents.  In 48 states, the OBC is sealed.  Every single state has a law on the…
  • Adoption and Fundraising: When Money to Breaks Down Systemic Barriers for Families

    Amanda
    28 Jul 2014 | 7:37 pm
    Aselefech runs for family preservation.There are a number of factors behind why I was placed for adoption.  Economics by far is one of the most pervasive.  My narrative is one among countless that attest to the way in which economics constricts the choices families and parents have--to keep their children, to not experience the removal of their children, to not become pregnant if they do not wish to be.I have been outspoken for the past five years against adoption fundraisers.  I have been asked countless times over the years to donate my written word or official endorsement to…
  • As Rightful Narrators: Adoption, RAD, and Storytelling

    Amanda
    23 May 2014 | 3:30 pm
    Recently, the New York Times Motherlode blog posted an essay by author Tina Traster entitled, "You're not my Real Mother."  The essay processed her gut reaction to hearing the infamous "you're not my real mom" phrase from her daughter.  Traster retorted "well who is then?" and directed her daughter never to say the phrase again.  Traster described her own hurt feelings while disclosing her daughter's adoption narrative and Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) diagnosis to readers across the globe.  Her daughter's narrative and diagnosis are also embedded in the premise of…
  • "I do not Have to Help Them": Pushing Back Against the Apathy of Those With Power

    Amanda
    23 Feb 2014 | 9:49 am
    "The Representative would like to meet with you," came a young woman's voice over the speaker of my cell phone. "It is urgent. You must come to Harrisburg as soon as possible." I agreed to attend, and quickly contacted two other adoption activists. It was the summer of 2010. I was relatively new to adoption activism and knew better than to go by myself. I knew why she had called.  This legislator had submitted a bill that competed with a pending original birth certificate access bill.  After his office ignored our attempts to engage with him personally, we launched a social media…
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    One Thankful Mom | Lisa Qualls

  • Once an Orphan: The Journey to Secure Attachment [Part 3]

    Lisa Qualls
    25 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    Today I bring part three of a  four part series from my guest, Sarah. When I published my post, Have We Made Attachment an Idol, she wrote a comment so insightful and beautiful that I asked her to develop it into a guest post. That post was so rich that I asked her to expand it, and before […]
  • Outdoor Nativity Set Giveaway – Just in Time for Advent!

    Lisa Qualls
    24 Nov 2014 | 11:37 am
    We’re kicking off Advent this Sunday, and in celebration I have a very special giveaway. You all know how much I love Advent and Christmas. Our house sits on top of a hill with our driveway coming off the highway, so lots of people see it as they come and go from town. Each winter we wrap […]
  • Sunday Gratitude 11.23.14

    Lisa Qualls
    23 Nov 2014 | 6:57 am
    How was your Saturday, friends? I wasn’t feeling great, so the long list of tasks I intended to accomplish remained untouched. I felt guilty, like I was squandering the day, but Russ assured me it was okay to rest, so I did. The day turned out to be a gift. This Wednesday Annarose is once […]
  • Once an Orphan: The Journey to Secure Attachment [Part 2]

    Lisa Qualls
    20 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    Today I bring part two of a  four part series from my guest, Sarah. When I published my post, Have We Made Attachment an Idol, she wrote a comment so insightful and beautiful that I asked her to develop it into a guest post. That post was so rich that I asked her to expand it, and before […]
  • Once an Orphan: The Journey to Secure Attachment [Part 1]

    Lisa Qualls
    18 Nov 2014 | 7:49 am
    Today begins a four part series of guest posts from Sarah. When I published my post, Have We Made Attachment an Idol, she wrote a comment so insightful and beautiful that I asked her to develop it into a guest post. That post was so rich that I asked her to expand it, and before we […]
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    Rage Against the Minivan

  • What I want you to know is that if you are Christian and gay, it gets better!

    28 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by SabrinaI grew up in a church where I was the leader of the “cool group” in youth group. Younger kids came to me for godly advice, I was apart of multiple bible study small groups, and I sang the loudest during worship. I was a master of disguise, sort of. Although I knew Jesus…
  • James Baldwin for Esquire magazine in 1960

    26 Nov 2014 | 10:03 pm
  • What I want you to know about the pain of being told you can't have children

    26 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    What I Want You to Know is a series of reader submissions. It is an attempt to allow people to tell their personal stories, in the hopes of bringing greater compassion to the unique issues each of us face. If you would like to submit a story to this series, click here. Today’s guest post is by Laura. On my 21st birthday I was taken into hospital with a suspected infected ovarian cyst. I was living 300 miles away from home for a university years placement, but I wasn't too worried, I was told it wasn't anything serious and I'd be out the next day. I had the surgery…
  • Why the lack of indictment for Mike Brown's shooting is a devastating blow

    25 Nov 2014 | 2:26 pm
    My boys are growing so fast. They are almost as tall as me. It's a milestone most mothers will feel bittersweet about, as we watch our boys turn into young men. But for mamas of black boys, it's also tinged with fear. My boys aren't as "cute" anymore. They don't look like little boys. They are nearing an age when their skin color becomes a liability to their safety.Yesterday, a boy not much older than my own was shot by police while playing with a toy gun in a park. A concerned witness noticed it, and instead of approaching the boy, called the police. He acknowledged twice on the call that it…
  • College expectations and the burden of debt

    24 Nov 2014 | 9:09 am
    This post was sponsored by Scholarshare.To say education is important in our family is a bit of an understatement. Our parents were educators. Mark and I both have advanced degrees. Both of us grew up watching our fathers pursue Ph.Ds. We grew up with the expectation that we would go to college. But we grew up with another expectation, too: Both of us were made aware from the beginning that we would have to pay for our college education. All of it—room, board, books—was on our shoulders. That's an entirely different kind of expectation. To be perfectly honest, it was a burden. Mark and I…
 
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    Lost Daughters

  • Where is the Compassion in Adoption?

    Julie Stromberg
    28 Nov 2014 | 3:00 am
    I was fortunate recently to spend time in person with an online friend. She is an optimistic, energetic, positive and inspiring woman. Being around her is like being around an intense shot of firey, bright sunshine. She is also a mother who relinquished her child for adoption. As we sat in a diner on a cold afternoon sipping hot, comforting beverages and swapping stories, I found myself wondering why the most basic human compassion is so often not offered within the context of crisis pregnancy, infertility and adoption.My friend conceived under not-ideal circumstances. Taking in her words and…
  • Ethiopian Adoptees: Orphans or "Manufactured" Orphans?

    Annette-Kassaye
    26 Nov 2014 | 10:23 pm
    According to UNICEF, there are 153 million orphans worldwide[i]. UNICEF defines orphans as children who have lost one or two parents to death or desertion. It also reports that the vast majority of “single” or “double” orphans are over 5 years old and usually live with a surviving parent or family member[ii].It’s difficult to quantify how many adopted Ethiopian children are double or single orphans since our documents usually lack information about our first families. Most adult adoptees have told me that their documents either don’t mention their parents’ names or state that…
  • Mindful As She Comes

    Pam Roberts
    26 Nov 2014 | 6:17 pm
    The moment I found her came in the middle of the night, where the isolation of the hour served to properly punctuate the solitary experience I call being adopted. Guided by a few unique non-identifying facts and the online family trees of some distantly related DNA matches, I started my mindless nightly search when suddenly those facts began to line up like stars in a perfect universe.I sat bolt-upright in bed and looked to my sleeping husband “I found her,” but he remained motionless. I spoke her name aloud and observed a host of new emotions as they washed over me like ocean waves.
  • Reflections on Ferguson, and on Raising Black Children

    Aselefech Evans
    25 Nov 2014 | 9:32 am
    St. Louis on Nov. 23, 2014 Alexey Furman—Demotix/Corbis. Posted from TIME.comEven before yesterdays decision on Michael Brown, I've talked at great length with a lot of Ethiopian adoptees about what it means to be Ethiopian and black in America. Adoptive parents often talk about making sure their children are aware of Ethiopian culture, but there is a much bigger issue here.It's one thing for Ethiopians in Ethiopia to raise their children as Ethiopians. It's completely different for white parents raising adopted Ethiopian children in the United States.

By adopting an Ethiopian child,…
  • Insight for Allies

    Soojung Jo
    24 Nov 2014 | 5:00 am
    Definition from Merriam-Webster.comIt's been a big month for Adoption. #NAAM and #flipthescript have raised the level of dialogue, with the many voices of adoptees building to a chorus. Our song is beautiful, and it is drawing an audience: this site has more than tripled its readership in the past month alone. It's hard to say exactly who all our new readers are, but very likely a large portion of you are here because you love an adopted person.  Here at Lost Daughters, you have an opportunity do more than just love us, but also to truly see us, hear us, and know…
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    Unsigned Masterpiece

  • Letter to an Adoption Ministry

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    24 Nov 2014 | 4:38 am
    Originally posted on orphanedheart:I saw a post recently on a forum that disturbed me.  There was a quote from a Christian about his take on the purpose of adoption. People who read his quote were ruffled…they were perturbed, and they bashed G-d.  It was hard to hear as a Christian person. I felt led…
  • Lest we forget …

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    11 Nov 2014 | 4:00 am
    They, too, had had Canadian soldiers billeted at their house during the war.
  • In search of self…

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    1 Oct 2014 | 9:47 am
    A Vermont Man is riding his bike to meet his family in Minnesota.  Read all about it here. on his blog called Ridinghometofindme.Filed under: Adoption, Adoption reunion, Cycling Tagged: Matthew Reid, Tim Howard
  • The truth shall also set you free…

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    27 Aug 2014 | 2:19 am
    A great post from Lost Daughters on the choppy waters of adoption reunion. If You Love Something, Let It Go Free And this feels like the companion piece to the Lost Daughters post.  From The Adopted Ones: Good Grief – This Gets So Tiring. I am adding another post to this list a day after […]
  • No Good Deed Goes Unpunished (Adoption Division)

    Unsigned Masterpiece
    20 Aug 2014 | 12:54 pm
    Then I noticed it. Down at the bottom of the email was a box and in it, in lovely, flowing, colourful letters, they expressed support for adoption.
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    Together for Adoption

  • Calling for an Adoption Paradigm Shift (not paradigm change)

    Dan Cruver
    21 Nov 2014 | 12:51 pm
    Imagine how a child in an orphanage would feel if she were adopted reunited with her impoverished mother (now economically stable) instead of placed in a new family…Note: Theologically, adoption is both (1) placement in the family of God and (2) reconciliation and reunification. We’re not looking for a complete paradigm change away from child placement but a shift to include and stress reconciliation and reunification. This is not a new position for Together for Adoption (see this 2010 post). It’s not either/or but both/and. We believe making this shift to include reconciliation…
  • Free Audio for Dr. Elizabeth Bartholet’s 3 T4A Talks

    Dan Cruver
    12 Nov 2014 | 7:59 am
    *Click the image below to find the audio and notes from Dr. Elizabeth Bartholet’s three conference talks.
  • Flip the Script — In Alex Krutov’s own Words: from orphan to adoption to a return to the orphanage system

    Dan Cruver
    11 Nov 2014 | 12:35 pm
    *Click the image below to “Flip the Script” with Alex Krutov, from St. Petersburg, Russia.
  • Audio for “Advice for White Parents of African-American Children”

    Dan Cruver
    7 Nov 2014 | 9:22 am
    In this special workshop, African-American pastor Dr. Toney Parks shares advice for White couples parenting African-American children in a post-Ferguson country.Dr. Parks is a 1980 Criminal Justice graduate of the University of South Carolina. He received a Masters Divinity degree from Erskine College and Theological Seminary and earned a Doctorate degree in counseling from Westminster Theological Seminary. Dr. Parks is also an Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling & Practical Ministry at Erskine Theological Seminary and has been the pastor of the Mt. Sinai Missionary Baptist…
  • Audio from T4A Conference 2014

    Dan Cruver
    28 Oct 2014 | 8:29 am
    Here is the first batch of free audio from our October 17-18 Together for Adoption Conference 2014.Our primary objective for this year’s conference was to maximize our time together by providing important conversations with people who are key leaders, thinkers, and practitioners in the global orphan care and adoption movement. We worked hard to facilitate extended conversations that matter—conversations that uniquely addressed the complex spectrum of care needed for orphans globally. Every main session talk was followed by a 20-25 minute onstage conversation in which leaders within…
 
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    Cheese Curds and Kimchi-Our international adoption story

  • National Adoption Awareness month: it's complicated

    17 Nov 2014 | 9:59 pm
    Here we are, about smack in the middle of National Adoption Awareness month. If you are not in the adoption world, you might not be aware that it's also a time when there can be heated debates between different parties involved in adoption who use this time to air opposing perspectives.Before we were an adoptive family, I could not have dreamed there could be so many opinions on adoption. You either get adoption, or you don't, right?But as with any issue, there are a myriad of opinions about this subject. Adoption is....complicated. You have your "adoption is child abuse" folks. Countered by…
  • Asian and multicultural dolls for kids

    3 Nov 2014 | 8:15 pm
    Hi all.Just a quick note. I recently learned about this great company called Pattycake Doll Company, that specializes in dolls that aren't...mainstream.You know, boy dolls. Asian dolls. Multicultural dolls.I haven't purchased from this company so I can't vouch for the quality. But I know that hunting down dolls of color can be a challenge.  In our house we only have one doll set, the Plan Toy Doll House Asian Family. I think it's important to have dolls that reflect a variety of faces and cultures, but our boys tend to prefer animals at this point.Here's the link to Pattycake's Asian…
  • Big Brother is 4!

    11 Oct 2014 | 3:19 pm
    (Finally getting around to posting this....Little Man turned 4 in July!)Dear Little Man, The kids were all gathered around party table as I put the candles into the chocolate cupcake topped with purple frosting.One.Two.Three.As I prepared to light the candles, The Man says, "you ARE going to put one more on, right". Ack! I still couldn't get it into my brain. You are 4 now!Four years old!생일 축하합니다!  We filled the hallway with balloons again this year, so you would wake up and know it was your special day. We were going to put them in your bedroom this year instead of the…
  • Things change

    30 Sep 2014 | 2:07 pm
    Hey there. Remember me?I'm the dimwit who wrote a season-ending giant cliffhanger a few months ago, saying things were going to change.And then I never returned. So let me catch you up.First there was this:And this:And then all of this.See? BIG!!The Cheesecurds are no longer in the Land of Cheese! We are now, hell, I have no idea what they call folks here. Doesn't matter though...we are still Cheesecurds. We just live in the City of Roses now. Portland, to be exact.You might be saying "holy hell, I can't believe they picked up and moved!" and that's my thoughts exactly as I drive around our…
  • Nanny in the house

    25 Jul 2014 | 12:25 pm
    I never really saw us as nanny people. That very word seems so pretentious and conjures up images of an uptight, elderly fussbucket who caters to rich families and spoiled children.However, I'm changing my tune.After four months off of work, it was time for me to go back to the real world. But Little Brother was clingy and still a little scared. We were concerned (OK, mostly I was concerned but The Man went along with it) that it would be too much for Little Brother to go to the preschool that Little Man attends. Although there are two regular classroom teachers, many other teachers rotate…
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    AMERICAN INDIAN ADOPTEES

  • Why are adoptees doing it; scams to Adopt #NAAM2014 #flipthescript

    28 Nov 2014 | 2:55 am
    By TraceIn my ongoing effort to make my blog readers realize that the adoption industry is not what we think it is: here is more about adoption scams:January 08, 2007Listen: All Things Considered  DownloadPJ Whiskeyman of Littitz, Pa., sought to adopt two girls from Ukraine whose pictures she saw on an adoption service Web site.  Sasha Aslanian/American RadioWorks Finding Home: 50 Years of International Adoption The Many Faces of Adoption  And here is a really wonderful post by adoptee artist Tracy Hammond (who nailed it on gratitude and so much more)#flipthescript: Why…
  • Adoptees who can't #FlipTheScript #breaksilence #adoption

    27 Nov 2014 | 2:55 am
    By Trace (Adoptee-Author-Blogger)After you read this post at Lost Daughters blog by Rebecca, HERE, I wanted to share a story about what happened to me in Wisconsin in 2008. I was invited to read an excerpt from my memoir at the Wisconsin Book Festival in Madison.My memoir One Small Sacrifice wasn't done. It was a draft. It had changed almost daily. I knew it had holes in it.I was having trouble finding and proving the Indian Adoption Project(s) had happened on paper.  I was using internet archives.I was not finding adoptees who wrote narratives. I was not finding news articles.I knew I…
  • Adoptees flip the script - TV news today

    26 Nov 2014 | 8:40 am
    Adoptees flip the script - DC News FOX 5 DC WTTGvisit: www.larahentz.wordpress.com
  • Daniel Ibn Zayd on answering questions #flipthescript #Adoption

    26 Nov 2014 | 2:55 am
    I would give anything for one minute of one day to not think about adoption... - Daniel Ibn ZaydBy TraceI'm rereading Daniel's blog... from last year. He did a series on 30 answers to 30 questions which should be viewed as the BIBLE of adoptee literature. For example: Why are adoptees never asking, always answering questions?Posted on November 30, 2013 by Daniel Ibn Zayd This is the final question in the series: “Anti-adoption month: 30 answers to 30 questions on adoption” [link].This is the “meta” question that is only revealed after years spent answering such questions as…
  • Lost Birds and DNA #Adoption #flipthescript

    25 Nov 2014 | 2:55 am
    I posed this question on Facebook, asking Native adoptees why they chose to do a DNA test...TraceThis is a repost by Mary Charles (Adoptee-Writer)I somehow don't believe the intention was for us (adoptees) to find our homes using DNA. But when I came across these "family" finders, my journey went full speed ahead.Being an adoptee, I originally just wanted to know my ethnicity. To confirm what I felt in my heart but I never had access to the truth. I was told my birth father was 1/4 Aleutian Indian from Alaska. At the time, the DNA company also offered medical evaluation to help see if you may…
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    Infant Adoption Guide

  • 4 Ways to organize your adoption journey

    Tim Elder
    20 Nov 2014 | 7:36 am
    Are you a natural organizer? Do you regularly have to-do lists, checklists and spreadsheets to help you get things done? If you are a fabulous organizer or not, when navigating the rough waters of your adoption journey, it can get overwhelming if you don’t have some way to keep your “to-do” list on track. I […]
  • IAG 028 – New York adoption law with attorney Anthony Zurica

    Tim Elder
    13 Nov 2014 | 11:45 am
    “Adopted children have become some of the most notable personalities to ever walk the planet. John Lennon, Marilyn Monroe, Bill Clinton, Nelson Mandela, and of course Superman himself, were all adopted.” Anthony Zurica Every hopeful adoptive family needs an adoption attorney. Every state has their own set of adoption laws. It gets confusing to know […]
  • Celebrate National Adoption Month during November!

    Tim Elder
    7 Nov 2014 | 9:04 am
    That’s right! November is National Adoption Month. What does that mean? It is a time to celebrate and create awareness for adoption in the U.S. National Adoption Month started in 1995. Since then, every November a Presidential Proclamation launches activities and celebrations to help build awareness of adoption throughout the nation. Thousands of community organizations […]
  • 5 Tips For Making Your Adoption Portfolio/Profile Unique

    Tim Elder
    30 Oct 2014 | 8:53 pm
    My wife and I have just finished creating our profile for our 3rd adoption – and it doesn’t seem to get any easier. I’ve done a lot of research about profiles. I really value Madeleine Melcher’s opinion and expertise about how to create the best and most unique profile. She literally wrote the book on […]
  • Adopting a 3rd time – our latest adoption journey

    Tim Elder
    25 Oct 2014 | 6:11 am
    If you’ve followed my story about how I became a dad and how my wife and I adopted our daughter in 2007 and our son in 2012, you know the road to building our family has been an amazing and wild ride. Our experiences have inspired me to help other hopeful adoptive families through InfantAdoptionGuide.com and […]
 
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    All In The Family Of Adoption

  • Reblogged: An Adoptee's Perspective: 15 Things Transracially Adoptive Parents Need to Know

    Kellie C
    26 Nov 2014 | 4:00 pm
    1.  Race and culture matter.  My race and culture of origin are integral to my identity and will always be a part of me.  Regardless of how much society claims to be colorblind, I will always be characterized and labeled by the color of my skin.  Because I do not look like you, it is important for you to show me - through your words and actions - that being different is okay...Read more at Diary of a Not-So-Angry Asian Adoptee...#flipthescript for #NAAM2014Also visit this list of blogs written by adoptees to learn more about their experience.
  • Sisterwish: My Adoptive Parents Won In Court

    Kellie C
    20 Nov 2014 | 7:57 pm
    We see these types of headlines in the adoption community often. They read “Adoptive Parents vs. Biological Mother” where the circumstances leading to an attempted adoption are questionable, but the prospective adoptive parents have the upper hand in most cases. Either the adoptive parents “win” on a technicality or they have more money to pursue a lengthy court case or know the right people and eventually, those of us that stand on the side of adoption ethics must accept that another adoption moves forward though there were many reasons it should not have.....Read more.#flipthescript…
  • The Adopted Ones Blog: Dear Adoptive Parents who are tired of adoptees speaking up

    Kellie C
    16 Nov 2014 | 7:00 am
    Have you ever stopped to consider how, and why things have changed in adoption from the 1950's to now? The answer to those questions begins with: But for adoptees being willing to talk about their deepest feelings, parents would still be parenting adopted children the same way adoptive parents were taught in the 1950's.  I'm not saying that changes were always adoptee driven, but only that if no adoptee had ever reached out or spoken up, there would be no impetus for change.  Change is scary, hard, unknown....Read more#flipthescript for #NAAM2014Also visit this list of…
  • Elle Cuardaigh - You’re better off (adopted)

    Kellie C
    9 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    Reblogged: "Your mother was probably 16 and got pregnant after the prom.  You're better off adopted" "Your real parents were still in high school.  You're lucky a married couple raised you.""Your mother never would have been able to finish school or get ahead, and she would have dragged you down with  her.  She gave you up so...Go read more here.#flipthescript for #NAAM2014Also visit this list of blogs written by adoptees to learn more about their experience.If you are an adoptee who would like to tell your story but do not have a blog or a space to do so…
  • Closure - A Documentary About Adoption

    Kellie C
    8 Nov 2014 | 6:00 am
    Closure.....From the website:"A documentary about a trans-racial adoptee who finds her birth mother, and meets the rest of a family who didn't know she existed, including her birth father.   A story about identity, the complexities of trans-racial adoption, and most importantly, CLOSURE."#flipthescript for #NAAM2014Also visit this list of blogs written by adoptees to learn more about their experience.If you are an adoptee who would like to tell your story but do not have a blog or a space to do so please email us at allinthefamilyofadoption@gmail.com.  We reserve the…
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